AIBU to ask for your happy tales of unexpected new found love after end of long marriage?

[NotTheMrMenAgain]

I separated from husband Aug/Sept after discovering, quite by accident, that he was an outrageous multi-cheater - as per thread on Relationships board. Utter arsehole. We were married for 12 years and together for approx 18 - which seems like a really bloody long time!

Now, I am far from ready for any kind of new relationship yet - although I do have a lot of 'catching up' to do in that area! I'm 45 and at some point in the future would like to find a new partner.......but from friends joyless experiences of internet dating the whole thing seems unlikely, difficult and fraught with stress and baggage.

Has anyone come out of an unhappy relationship and later just met someone really nice, by chance? And just got on and clicked, without any angst or drama? Please can you give me any hope?! (Bit dramatic there!)

Oh OP you poor thing, what a scoundrel

I've been single for 2 years now after also leaving a cheating shit. I've stayed single the whole time.

This is going to sound super corny, so apologies if you do actually vomit...but I have found happiness with myself. I've loved every minute of doing what I want, when I want, leading my life without having to take someone else's opinion into account. Getting to know and love myself has been the highlight of my divorce. I never loved myself with ExH...probably because he didn't really love me and I put all my eggs in that basket!

No advice re men - though I'm staying away from the like of Tinder as what I gather from girlfriends is it's full of stalkers and creeps who think you want to see a picture of their Willy. When life gets back to normal, why not get a lovely outfit, a blow dry, some make up down, hit the town with girlfriends and meet someone the good old fashioned way?

Ooh I love your response @JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows ! That's the ideal really isn't it?

In terms of meeting someone, I know two people, one in her 30's, one in his 60's whose relationships ended. They both have since got together with old friends/ friend of a friend and seem very happy.

Well I missed that thread but I’m in the sand boat! I found out he was a cheating shit by chance too. We split up in May after ten years of marriage.

I’m no where near wanting to meet anyone yet but I have thought about who could possibly be next. However JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows I hear you! I’m finding myself too and tbh this version of me I’m getting to really like. I think a man would really cramp my style at the moment

Same boat** ( gah I need to go to sleep!)

Have to say that while I sometimes think, do I want to be in a long term relationship again? I am currently content being single. However am still working through the baggage of my failed marriage, so I dont think I am ready either. Been divorced for about a year. (The process of which dragged on for two years, as he promised to make it as hard as possible to divorce him).