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Can I drive 30 mins

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Crystalclair · 06/01/2021 20:41

Can I drive 30 mins to see my partner (my support bubble). I've heard they're stopping cars randomly. I know support bubbles are allowed, but unclear about the journey to get to and from.

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RockingMyFiftiesNot · 07/01/2021 09:22

@WidowTwonky

Does this not mean you can only support one household?
It means you can only be in one support bubble yes. So a single person can be in a support bubble with only one other household. But this is about care for disabled people, which is different
Can I drive 30 mins
WidowTwonky · 08/01/2021 09:15

Ah sorry rockingmyfiftiesnot, didn’t realise they were different.

AlwaysLatte · 08/01/2021 09:26

AlwaysLatte can I get this right? You are regularly visiting both parents, separately, separate locations. I am completely ready to say I've misunderstood your restrictions but this to me seems completely against the rules?
Yes, but it's not 'visiting' in the social sense as I'm carer for both of them (both registered disabled) and take them to their medical appointments and do their shopping and organise their medications. I also have to take my Dad's blood pressure every day as he has to have it carefully tracked and the GP phones me regularly for the numbers.

Dollywilde · 08/01/2021 09:30

Jesus, when we’re picking at the idea people can be banned from being an unpaid carer for more than one family member we’re really at the end of it. Unpaid carers save this country billions. Or would people rather that the country’s beleaguered social care budget paid for strangers to look after elderly/disabled people instead?

AlwaysLatte · 08/01/2021 09:32

For the record, before anyone says I'm being mean not inviting them to live with us, my mum won't despite multiple invitations (she loves her independence) and my Dad is living with my brother - it's just that my brother works 7-6 and so I provide the day care for my Dad.
I haven't seen anywhere that you can only provide care for one person. But as a family we are all mindful of this situation. I wear new filtered masks for every visit, wash wash wash, clean everything down including shopping, get groceries delivered etc etc .

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 08/01/2021 09:37

You have enough on your plate without people who haven't taken the time to understand the rules berating you ... for actually not breaking them! Am seeing this on so many threads it is really starting to make me angry.

AlwaysLatte · 08/01/2021 09:39

@Dollywilde thank you
My mum did initially have carers x 3 per day when she first came out of hospital. My Dad would need that if I didn't go every day but we manage without.
Anyway, any medical visitors my parents have wear no better masks than I do and they visit many many households so I think it's less risk too.

supersonicginandtonic · 08/01/2021 09:45

I drive a 90 minute round trip twice a week to meet my elder children's dad for contact when they go to his house.
I also travel the same to care for my elderly nan and do her shopping.

twistedsistersocks · 08/01/2021 09:49

I was wondering the same thing myself. I need to drive 30 minutes over the county border to deliver an essential item that somebody needs for their job or they need to come and collect it from me. The alternative is that they go and buy it but going to the shops must be more risky than a no contact collection from me.

itsgettingweird · 08/01/2021 10:03

I drove for 25 minutes up and down motorway just to get my poor car battery a bit of juice!

I'm an essential worker who mixes wfh and out of home and so the poor thing had got very cold.
Essential because if it dies and I couldn't go out to work when I needed then it would put others at risk.

I was going out anyway to do my twice monthly supermarket shop - I just took the longer route WinkGrin

WidowTwonky · 08/01/2021 10:41

@RockingMyFiftiesNot

You have enough on your plate without people who haven't taken the time to understand the rules berating you ... for actually not breaking them! Am seeing this on so many threads it is really starting to make me angry.
I think the confusion on this thread is that the OP was asking about a support bubble which as you say is different to the carer bubble. Not sure anyone has berated either circumstance though on this thread tbh
JanewaysBun · 08/01/2021 11:19

You don't need to explain @alwayslatte people don't know the difference between a support bubble and essential care Flowers

knittingaddict · 08/01/2021 11:24

@itsgettingweird

I drove for 25 minutes up and down motorway just to get my poor car battery a bit of juice!

I'm an essential worker who mixes wfh and out of home and so the poor thing had got very cold.
Essential because if it dies and I couldn't go out to work when I needed then it would put others at risk.

I was going out anyway to do my twice monthly supermarket shop - I just took the longer route WinkGrin

I had to do the same thing. My daughter is using my car to take her children to school and it wouldn't start yesterday. It's an old car, has only been doing very short journeys for months and the weather is freezing here. We jump started it and I drove it for 50 minutes to get the battery charged. We had to do the same thing in the last lockdown. No choice really. No one stopped and asked where I was going and roads were as busy as pre covid times.
FrankButchersDickieBow · 08/01/2021 12:23

@acrossthebrooklynbridge

Can I drive 30 mins?

Only to test your eyesight!

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