All these people judging everyone else

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NC as I don’t want some of my personal information following me on here.

There are so many judgmental people out there. Criticising and judging others, questioning others actions and motives. If the rules allow a family with only one key worker parent to be able to send their children to school then who are you to question those families. Who are you to question whether someone should be classed a key worker or not. And who are you to question why someone shops in home bargains or b&m for their shopping or to question what someone else puts in their supermarket trolley.

Unless you know these people personally, know every in and out of their lives, what they need to keep going then you should be keeping your bloody noses out!

For all you know that key worker whose job you don’t think qualifies or shouldn’t qualifies children may be classed as vulnerable but they don’t want you or anyone else knowing their business, it’s between them and the school.

For me, my DH is a key worker, non of the parents at my DCs school know what he dose, if they ask I say something to do with data and numbers, I do this because I’m not at liberty to tell because as his work is highly confidential and he has NDAs in place, plus it’s none of their fucking business. We didn’t send our DCs in during the first lockdown as I’m a sahm. Our circumstances have changed now, DH will be away for the duration of the lockdown he won’t be able to make visits home, the nature of his job and I’ve since had major health issues. Right now I’m mobile and can manage many basic tasks, but I manage this with having time during the day to rest and someone coming in a couple of times a week to help with the housework, washing etc.. I also have to attend regular hospital appointments ( I spent all yesterday afternoon there and this morning) luckily my DH is still on annual leave this week from Christmas otherwise I would have had to take young 3 children while undergoing testing including an ecg, I can tell you trying to control 3 young children would not have helped my ecg results one bit! None of this information is common knowledge, the parents see me do school drop offs and pick ups and unless I choose otherwise they have no idea about anything else in my life.

So yes my children will be going in part time. The school know what my husbands job is, even if they don’t know specifics and they know he will be away for the duration of lockdown, they also know about my health issues and are giving me days that will cover my regular hospital appointments and they are the only ones who need to know this information, neither they nor myself should have to justify it to any other parent. Just like I’d never expect any other parents to justify why they do what they do.

Ok rant over!

YABU - we have every right and should be questioning others
YANBU - people need to butt the fuck out and look at their own life not other peoples.

It’s not clear if you have actually been asked to justify your position but you are clearly carrying a lot of anger. You know the school are happy with the situation and that it’s no one else’s business so perhaps you need to let go a bit or it sounds like this is really going to affect you when it needn’t.

YABVU.

The government have made huge mistakes in the handling of this pandemic.

Allowing half the kids in schools who could be at home is yet another disaster. Can you not understand that kids at home means the virus goes away quicker. We should do every thing we can to stay at home.

Yanbu peolle are too nosy and busybody types.

They should just concern themselves on keeping as safe as possible and stop finger pointing.

The saying you never know what the other person is going through or their background needs repeating.

Im really sympathetic to your situation OP and wouldn’t dream of judging you.
I’m finding it difficult however not to judge groups of people shopping together in the supermarket I work in. I don’t mean people with young children, I’m referring to families, both parents with grown up children all huddled round one trolley. Also essential shopping to me is food, toiletries and medicines. I don’t understand how most of the shops in my local precinct have been able to stay open. WH Smith’s, Ryman’s, Cash Converters? Then we also have JD Sports , New Look and an independent clothes shop all open for click and collect. I’m judging the people who can’t stick to the rules, I’m judging the retailers who are bending the rules , and I’m judging the government for coming up with the rules and not doing anything to actually enforce them.

People are right to be concerned about people not following the rules properly.

University College Hospital in London said that in a very short time there is a high chance they will be totally overwhelmed and won’t be able to help additional peopLe arriving at the hospital - so imagine someone seriously injured in a car crash being left to die because there is no space at the hospital for them. That is how serious this is.

The judging just feels very myopic to me OP.

I am work. Most of my extended family are at work. They were not in the first lockdown. Life is carrying on as normal to a great extent for us. Schools being full of kids is a reflection of that and a consequence of the government rules for this lockdown.

If people were genuinely concerned about the spread of the virus they would be demanding the government close all these non essential workplaces.

Making out the parents are the problem rather than government decision making is a consequence of people not looking much further than the playground when attempting to understand what is happening in this pandemic.