AIBU not to buy presents for my DC's godparents?

[theconstantinoplegardener]

Inspired by another thread (but not a TAAT).

My DC were all given Christmas presents by their lovely godparents. Some of the godparents are siblings of DH or me. We don't buy presents for these godparents, but we do buy for their DC, just as we do for our siblings who aren't godparents.

A couple of my DC have godparents who are family friends, but not related to us. They have not yet had their own children. They buy gifts for my DC (their godchildren) for birthdays and Christmas. It's never occurred to me to buy anything for them, but after reading the above-mentioned thread, I'm wondering if I should.

AIBU?

It would be nice to buy a present for your friends

I don’t understand presents only for children at Christmas, ok it keeps costs down but you can get a small present for an adult without too much expense

Thank you Shoxfordian. Does anybody else have a view on this, please?

A token gesture would be nice... a gift selection of teas or a houseplant maybe?

Yes, I think you should. We have a number of childless friends who are incredibly generous to our DC at Christmas and birthdays. It feels very mean not to make an effort for them too so we always make sure we get them something.

I gift my god parents and I’m an adult. I would do the same if my children had them but they don’t as we aren’t religious so didn’t christen them.

I would certainly buy them a small gift from my dc.
I'd feel it rude not to.

I think it’s odd buying for adults, even small token gifts. We all have enough pointless clutter in our houses without adding to it. I’d rather friends save their money and us all go for a meal or drinks together than receive a candle that I’ll never light or a bottle of Prosecco I’ll never drink.

The godchild gives a gift (or you do on their behalf until they are old enough) usually something made by the child.

I would gift the adults until they have children (if they choose to). Then make an agreement to only buy for children after that.

No, we don’t give gifts to the Godparents. Some of them give gifts to the children (normally a book about faith). Our kids write thank you cards and chat to them on the phone.

We are Godparents to quite a few kids and almost never get gifts from them. Maybe twice from 5 Godkids in 8 years. It’s not what the relationship is about imo.

Seems a bit odd / stingey that you would rely on them to raise your children if you were to die, but wouldn’t buy then a token gift 😂

@19lottie82 😂 well when you put it like that very true 🤣😂

I buy for my sons godparents and their children, and myself and my son get a gift from my godson this is xmas and birthdays

I find it odd that they are close enough to you to make them god parents but you don’t buy them presents for birthdays or Christmas. But I also find it weird that you don’t buy for your siblings.
We buy for adults and children for both Xmas and birthdays

No, I wouldn't expect (and nor do I get) anything from my Godchildren.

Being a Godparent is an honour, and a bit of a one way street, you don't need physical / consumable gift back at all.

I have 8 god children and none of my own. I buy for them and their parents do often buy me a gift at both birthdays and Christmas. I don't expect it at all though. I sometimes buy for the parents depending on the relationships with them.

Christmas doesn’t suddenly stop when you turn 18 so I have never understood the view of not buying adults gifts. Appreciate if it is due to cost but that is different to it not occurring to you as you say in your OP

I buy presents for my DS’s godmother, but she’s my best friend. She buys presents for DS and me but only gets one back from all of us so maybe I should get her one from DS specifically!

My mum is a god parent to a young child and for Christmas they buy her their school photo and gift it to my mum, it's only small but she appreciates it

Lottie actually, the role of a godparent is to provide spiritual guidance to the child. There is no expectation that a godparent should be responsible for their godchild in the event of the parents' death. If DH and I should pass prematurely, all our DC would be raised together by an agreed family member who would become their legally appointed guardian, rather than shared out amongst their godparents.

I buy gifts for all of our close friends’ children, even where we are not godparents. I don’t get, expect or want gifts back (I don’t have children) and I don’t buy gifts for our adult friend apart from one (who does gift back).

I don't buy for godparents and I have never received presents from parents of godchildren (husband and I have four godchildren between us). We all have too much stuff anyway.

My husband and I have 10 godchildren between us. It's never even occurred to us that they might give us presents! I'm pretty certain none of my friends get presents either, unless they previously would exchange presents with the parents. Most of my friends don't exchange gifts with other friends though, just with family.

I buy a small gift to my children's godparents whom don't have small children for me to buy for, a plant, chocolates or something for the garden.

Far too many presents are given.