Pregnancy scan dilemma - AIBU

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I'm due to have my 20 week scan next week and at present the hospital have said my husband can attend.

However we have a 2 year old who'll need looking after. My mum has said she'll do it but there a few things which make me unsure what to do:

She's a nurse, works with some Covid patients at community hospital.
My dad is also key worker but not so client facing (delivery driver).
She already childcare bubbles for my sister, looking after my niece once a week, will be having her this week, 5 days before she would come here.
Sis also childcare bubbles with her in laws and is still working.
Mum has been visiting elderly relative who is not in best health.

However, I had a missed MC found at 12 week scan earlier this year and have been anxious about attending scans alone.
Have also otherwise been v cautious about social distancing etc and not meeting people indoors.
My husband would like to attend scan with me and doesn't see the problem in mum caring for our little boy.
My son loves his grandma and hasn't seen her since before Christmas.

AIBU to say he should look after our son and I attend alone or should I accept the risks and ask my mum to come over? Any opinions appreciated!

Thanks all for your opinions and suggestions again, a lot of good points.
@iolaus annoyingly there is not a single park anywhere near the hospital! We do have a garden though, so I could ask my mum to spend time outside with him.
@Moo678 so sorry to hear that, wishing you all the best with this pregnancy.

Could your mum just take him for a walk around the hospital grounds/nearby streets? I know that's not as fun as the park but presumably will only be for ½ hour or so? The weather isn't great but if he is bundled up in the pushchair he should be ok, there might be a cafe nearby doing takeaway hot chocolate etc?

@ZoeTurtle I know, I agree and we have had a lot of arguments on this point which is why I'm wary of becoming part of the problem!

Unfortunately there isn't any one else who could help, husband's parents not with us and no close friends nearby (we've only recently moved here so all our friends are back in our old area).

I think on balance the idea of mum meeting us there and walking round the area is probably the 'best' solution in terms of my husband being able to attend and reducing any transmission risk. If that's not an option then I'll leave husband with my little boy instead.

@CrotchBurn your comment was unnecessarily cruel, you do not have children so you can’t possibly know how stressful scans can be. Maybe this is one thread you should sit out off.