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AIBU?

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Am I being unreasonable to want to bite the woman I overheard at a house-museum yesterday?

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NorthernLurker · 26/10/2007 09:11

So Dh, dds 1-3 and I were out in town yesterday and decided we would go to this medieval house reconstruction thing. Dd2 has been before with me and loved it. So off we go, pay and go into the first room from which we can still hear what is happening at the entrance desk.
Two ladies come in just behind us (would have seen us going in) and say to chap at desk "this may sound like an odd question, but have you got many CHILDREN in today" "Errr" says bloke - so she carries on "because you see we didn't realise it was half term and we do want to enjoy looking round peacefully"
Bloke rallies a bit and says that the house is pretty quiet but there are two or three families in. " Oh we'll come back another time - do you decorate with victorian style decorations at Christmas"
Now by this time dh is killing himself laughing and I am torn between shushing him (why I don't know) and wanting to get out there and ask madam exactly what the problem is with my children - two of whom are examining a spinning wheel (the place is very very hands on and you are encouraged to touch etc - also there are crafts etc for children - and medieval toys). The other child is of course asleep (6 mo old)
Of course I did nothing and they grumped off. But AIBU to resent the idea that they obviously felt, that children and museums don't mix? Actually they obviously weren't taken around much as children themselves or they would have realised that you wouldn't tend to put VICTORIAN decorations in an otherwise impeccable MEDIEVAL property

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LilBloodRedWantsGore · 26/10/2007 09:13

Silly old trouts!

ScaryScienceT · 26/10/2007 09:13

YABU - they are allowed to have an adults-only experience if they like.

NotQuiteCockney · 26/10/2007 09:15

At least they realised they minded kids, and asked up front, rather than going around being annoyed at all the kids ...

VoodooLULUmama · 26/10/2007 09:15

so, instead of actually coming into the museum and huffing and tutting, they decided to come back another time... so yes, YABU to want to bite her !!

your last sentence is very judgey too , old ladies might well have forgotten their history lessons on interior design

LadyVictoriaOfCake · 26/10/2007 09:17

i am pmsl at victorian decorations in medievil property lol..

edam · 26/10/2007 09:17

They were a bit daft but agree with NQC, at least they buggered off. Perhaps they are scarred by a mistaken visit to Alton Towers, thinking it was a historic house?

jellyhead · 26/10/2007 09:18

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GreatBigHairyMonsterlapin · 26/10/2007 09:18

They sound like they were pretty civilised about the whole thing - TBH I doubt they were referring to your children, they probably saw several children in the car park and thought "oh blimey!".

I avoid certain places on half term because of the children - we went to Eden during the school holidays and it was hell - why shouldn't they?

YABU.

slng · 26/10/2007 09:19

Very funny! Should have told them to b*gger off and come back later because you didn't want your viewing pleasure to be disrupted by grumpy child-hating rude (and ugly hopefully?) old ladies. Biting them would probably be unreasonable though.

Sounds like a great museum. Where is it?

morningpaper · 26/10/2007 09:20

Half term can be awful with children everywhere

I sympathise with the ladies I'm afraid!

I can't bear children really ...

Theclosetpagan · 26/10/2007 09:24

I feel for the ladies - at least they asked and went away. The alternative may have been them following you around and tutting every time your children asked a question or got excited about something they saw.

Not everyone likes sharing an environment with children - there are times when I don't either. Not sure I'd avoid anywhere just because children were present though.

NorthernLurker · 26/10/2007 09:26

LVOC - your reaction echoes my dh's - he keeps asking can we have Victorian decorations and creasing up!

I wouldn't actually bite them you know....just growl a bit. Thing is if they had come in I'm sure they would have been entranced by my dd's impeccable grasp of history and appreciation of wattle and daub
Or do you think there's a chance not everyone finds my children as entrancing as I do?

Actually what genuinely annoys me is the way 'children' was identified as a group that were to be avoided.
They weren't that old by the way.....

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VoodooLULUmama · 26/10/2007 09:28

it isn;t compulsory to like other peoples' children, however cute and fascinating they might be !

NorthernLurker · 26/10/2007 09:31

It isn't?

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VoodooLULUmama · 26/10/2007 09:32

sadly not .

good job you didn't bite her, isn;t it?

batters · 26/10/2007 09:49

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spooklesandwhine · 26/10/2007 09:57

DP and I went to the British museum a while ago without the dc and loved it! I can totally understand not wanting to go there with your dc or other peoples They weren't rude about your dc particuarly were they? they just wanted to enjoy it in their own way, and everyone is entitled to enjoy the museum as they see fit so yes YABU

lucyellensmum · 26/10/2007 10:36

Yep sorry, i understand how you feel, but definately being unreasonable. I went swimming with DD the other day and was most put out by the amount of children there! Of course im being unreasonable too. But i dont always want to have to put up with children running around generally making a noise, which is what children do, when i want a quiet time. My DD is 2.2 and older people tend to warm to her, but older children especially en masse are boisterous and over excitable as a rule and sometimes, i dont need it.

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