Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Another DM one...

26 replies

SaladforJan · 05/01/2021 09:25

I grew up with a perfectionist DM who made my life a complete misery.

DM has a very high opinion of herself. She genuinely believes that she is better than anyone else in all respects: beauty, education, cooking skills... you name it!

I used to love art. I may not have been good at it but I genuinely enjoyed it. I remember DM going through my art work and "correcting" my work before I would submit it. I once made a real life painting of a bunch of flowers and she went back and recoloured the petals. I had painted them in their real form, she went back and recoloured them.

Everything that I did, she would need to correct. She would add an accessory before I would go out. She would add spices to my dishes. She completely destroyed my self confidence. There are few things in life that I can still find joy in.

During lockdown, I have been sending photos of the DCs to family. Sometimes they are in PJs with hair unbrushed etc. Or it could be in a messy kitchen.

Every single time DM has to comment. You should not take photos with a light in the background. This hair parting does not suit DC. You can't take photos from this angle.

These are not studio or posed photos... literally life as it's happening.

I don't know why she does this. She does this to everyone. Other family members just ghost her. I don't have this option. What can I do?

OP posts:
PurpleMustang · 05/01/2021 13:03

My realisation was that I had had kids and she was still telling me I was doing wrong , what she was not happy with blah blah blah. I just had a switch go off one day and said to myself she is never happy even when I put her first above my partner, my kids and me, she always moans about something, she will never be happy. She isn't happy and neither am I. Why am I doing this? If only one of us can be happy it should be me!! And that was it

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread