Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

To send DD to nursery?

35 replies

Choclover3 · 05/01/2021 07:21

My 3 year old will be starting school next September and she absolutely loves nursery. She's been constantly asking when she can go back after Christmas. Obviously I really don't want her to lose out developmentally if she doesn't go and also want her to be prepared for school.

But I'm a stay at home mom and have no real reason to send her in (other than the above). I also love the nursery she goes to and don't want them to be put in a position that they would have to close due to not getting paid for kids going in. But at the back of my mind I keep thinking if everybody is being told to stay home, and I'm lucky that I don't have to juggle childcare with work like most people at the moment then am I being unreasonable to send her in? She does also have her little brother at home to play with so she does still get interaction with children.

OP posts:

Finally2021 · 05/01/2021 07:22

Keep her home.

Tyranttoddler · 05/01/2021 07:24

Send her in if you want to.

Horehound · 05/01/2021 07:24

Tbh since the case numbers are rising so much I'd be tempted to keep her off for two more weeks at least.

Potterpotty · 05/01/2021 07:24

Keep her home. Usually the getting ready for school stuff doesn’t happen until after Easter.

Dontjudgeme101 · 05/01/2021 07:25

Keep her at home

Mindymomo · 05/01/2021 07:25

I would keep her at home, it’s hard I know.

ivfbeenbusy · 05/01/2021 07:32

Just bear in mind you'll have to continue to pay full fees since they are open and you are choosing not to send her

Remmy123 · 05/01/2021 07:33

I'd send her but maybe reduced - so one session a week or something

shouldistop · 05/01/2021 07:34

I'd send her in. I think the benefit to your 3yo will far outweigh any risks to her.

Lifeispassingby · 05/01/2021 07:34

Keep her at home, play your part. If nurseries end up going to the same situations as schools then it will be disruptive for her and you’ll have taken that risk for a limited benefit anyway

ShinyGreenElephant · 05/01/2021 07:37

I'm sending my 2yo in. She's already had covid recently, as has my whole family, so I don't feel were putting the staff at risk. I need those three mornings a week to be able to give my oldest some attention and help with her home learning - it was so hard last time with a crazy toddler. I'm not sure what I'd decide if we hadn't had covid though.

Whostoblame · 05/01/2021 07:41

Keep her at home, it's what I'm doing despite the nursery being open and I'm working from home in a telephony based environment. Were just going to have to cope but it's safer x

MaryShelley1818 · 05/01/2021 08:12

I've just started Maternity Leave and therefore will be keeping my 3-yr old home with me.
Hopefully 4-6wks and he'll be able to go back. Not worth the risk unless you need to for work imo.

Tongtwister · 05/01/2021 08:16

I'm sending my 4 year old in. I need to work from home somedays I'll be in the office others and I'm home schooling a 5 year old. I can't do everything so as cases are low in our area and none of us are vulnerable this is how I'm choosing to cope.

Original poster

Choclover3 · 05/01/2021 08:16

Thanks everyone, that's pretty much what I have been thinking. Hoping she will be able to go back in a few weeks as she's really missing it but I do think I should 'play my part' and keep us all home x

OP posts:

Badgerstmary · 05/01/2021 08:17

Please keep her at home. Protect her, protect the staff & protect your wider community.

Original poster

Choclover3 · 05/01/2021 08:17

@Tongtwister

Yeh I have a few friends in this situation and I completely agree with them sending their little ones in. I just think that because I don't need to send her I probably shouldn't x

OP posts:

HerbErtlinger · 05/01/2021 08:21

I'm in the same situation, don't need to send my 3yr in as I'm at home but he bloody loves it and came out beaming and so happy yesterday.
I'm going to keep him home. I feel gutted for him but hopefully it will only be for a few weeks and will make the preschool environment safer with less children in and the smaller staff ratios. Feeling really sad this morning though.

Nonamesavail · 05/01/2021 08:21

Mines going in x

Original poster

Choclover3 · 05/01/2021 08:24

@HerbErtlinger

I'm in the same situation, don't need to send my 3yr in as I'm at home but he bloody loves it and came out beaming and so happy yesterday. I'm going to keep him home. I feel gutted for him but hopefully it will only be for a few weeks and will make the preschool environment safer with less children in and the smaller staff ratios. Feeling really sad this morning though.

It's a horrible situation isn't it when they love it so much but you can't let them go in. Especially because they don't understand why!

OP posts:

Justcallmecaptainobvious · 05/01/2021 08:28

I’m keeping mine home, will have another think in a couple of weeks. Gutted because he loves it and entertaining him and the baby is incredibly hard work, but I just can’t justify it. Hopefully it helps keep staff and children who do need to be in safe.

Ostryga · 05/01/2021 08:32

Dd is going in. Her nursery has been open since June and not had a single case.

She loves it too much, and she’d go stir crazy if we were stuck at home all day (March lockdown was proof of that!)

As long as you’re not going wild and seeing tons of people I do think keeping their regular routine is very important, especially in covid times where everything is already haywire.

MyNameForToday1980 · 05/01/2021 08:33

Mine's going in because both DH and I WFH, not the sort of jobs where it's straight forward to split our time between that and childcare.

During Lockdown 1 DH ended up working 5am to 2pm and I worked 2pm to 11pm. Though he'd have the odd meeting during my working hours, and I'd often end up working until after midnight. We did it because we had to, but it was a genuine struggle, not sustainable, and we desperately missed things like eating together as a family (not to mention it felt like we were gently failing at both parenting and working).

We could survive with only one of us working, but it would significantly change the way we live our life (financially) and be hard to get back into our industries after a break. I do consider it, but I believe I'm more use to society as someone who has the income available to spend, esp if we're heading into a massive recession.

DD also LOVES nursery. So there is social and happiness benefit to her too.

If I wasn't working, I'd probably continue to send her, but for fewer days a week, and I'd probably keep her home for the next few weeks while Lockdown starts to 'work' and cases start to fall.

I really do see this next 8 weeks as the darkest part of the night before dawn, we have the vaccines, we know how to lockdown to stop the spread, Spring is coming, we just need to knuckledown for the next couple of months, and I hope things will be brighter.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 05/01/2021 08:39

I've no idea why they don't say the same as schools that nurseries should be open for key workers and vulnerable dc only.

KitKatastrophe · 05/01/2021 08:45

@GetOffYourHighHorse

I've no idea why they don't say the same as schools that nurseries should be open for key workers and vulnerable dc only.

Because they don't want loads of people to lose their jobs. Most people can get at least some work done with a school aged child. Nobody can work with a toddler running around. Nurseries are less risk than schools because of lower numbers. The benefit (working parents) outweighs the risks

Flip

1 2

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.