To feel like some people have no clue

[Northernsoulgirl45]

So I have 3 dds. Between ages 7 and 16
.2 with SEN. Dh in poor health and works full time from home I work part time averaging 10 hours per week out of the home.
Sister has 1 nt dd and works 30 hours per week from home.. Her dh does similar hours and is pretty hands on with her dd DH not do much.
So we had a chat when the news hit re lockdown and tbh her attitude was quite annoying. Apparently its alright for me as I only work part time.
So AIBU to think that it isn't a race to the bottom and actually I probably have more on my plate.

You have 20 hours extra a week to use..

You're right. It's not a race to the bottom. This is shit for most of us for different reasons. We've all just got to try our best to get through it.

Yes 20 hours a week trying to cope with two SEN kids who don't sleep. One is not in school bar 3 one hour sessions per week that I have to escort her too. Plus counselling sessions and applying for EHCP, medical appointments. and other regular meeting like Early help and Medical Needs Additional laundry due to soiling. Dealing with an eating disorder and an dh who actually needs help from me aswell.
Life of Riley

Although obviously all three won't now be in school so I will have two to support. One will have 3 sessions pw Zoom but God knows if she will engage.
Yet she and her dh will have one and will share the role out.

This is really difficult times. Competing with your sister over who has it worse is not going to help, only make it worse. Can only do our best. Maybe try ignoring your sisters negativity

So it's not a race to the bottom but you want to be at the bottom?

You are probably right - you have got more on your plate - but your sister lashing out shows you her state of mind, she is panicking/struggling. You don't know exactly what goes on behind closed doors, so perhaps there are problems you can't see. And even if there aren't, she is obviously feeling like she is weighed down by all this.

Try not to dwell on the fact she is being competitive about it, just say to her almost everyone is finding this really hard for different reasons.

Feeling more positive. Had a successful morning. Will ring dsis tonight for a chat .
I think we were both a bit shell shocked yesterday even though deep down we knew it was coming.