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To be sick of DP's family thinking the rules dont apply to them

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Cheeseandlobster · 04/01/2021 12:23

Its just a rant really. I know its not unusual and I will probably have my arse handed to me on a plate for starting yet another thread. But I am sick of them thinking the rules dont apply to them.

We are tier 4. I have been mainly wfh since March. I literally go to the office every 2 weeks when rota'd to do so and go to the supermarket. Thats been my life and the life of my friends and colleagues too aside from some brief respite in August/ September. My mental health is in its boots and I have felt suicidal more than once. I didnt even get to see my own child over Xmas as it was their dads turn and he lives miles away.

Yet dp's family and especially his adult children have been mixing households regularly. The final straw was this morning. Dp is at his parents house who are both 90 as he did some shopping for them. He drops it into conversation that 2 of his dc's who don't live with each other are on their way with the gc's for a lovely jolly morning. One of whom has just collected their son from school. All I can think is how fucking selfish. This little boy has been in school with 20 other kids and is going straight to the home of 2 90 year olds. Dp's mum has said she they wont be having visitors but she will never say no to her family. They are both in fantastic health for 90 but are still 90 and more at risk than many others. The adult dc's have said in the past when challenged that its ok as they dont know anyone with the virus so they are not putting anyone at risk Hmm

And here I am. I don't start work again until tomorrow and am spending it on my own yet again like every other day. I just think its selfish idiots like dp's family who have helped to keep this godawful situation going and I dont know how much longer I can take it. I know I am fortunate I don't live alone but Dp works long hours so is rarely in and I am so sad at the moment for myself and for everybody who has lost someone and for what we have all collectively lost.

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Nonamesavail · 04/01/2021 12:24

Our in laws are the same. :(

steppemum · 04/01/2021 12:30

Wow, just wow.

I cannot imagine putting my 90 year old grandparents at risk.

My own parents are 79. I was dropping shopping at their door and retreating to the end of the drive during first lockdown. We didn't see them on Christmas day as my teenage son has a job in a shop and we felt he was high risk to them.

In October half term (and we were very low rate area) we arranged to meet up at their house at the end of the week, so my kids had all been out of school for 7 days first, so we would know if they had been in contact with any positive cases at school.

I just cannot imagine putting them at risk. So selfish.
So when they get Covid (and with the new strain, they will) they will all wring their hands and wonder where they got it from?

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