Can’t wait for him to go back to work

[Higglepiggle2021]

Dp been off since Christmas Eve and is due back to work tomorrow. I can’t wait, I’ll feel light again, I can laugh and play with my toddler Dd without sitting on the sofa on my phone in this strange atmosphere.
Not normal is it?
Does anyone else feel like this, I just want to be happy,

Erm what??

This is weird! I could understand it if he had been working from home for months, but your husband is on holiday in his own home!

Move this to relationships board x

What’s causing the strange atmosphere?

Eh?

It’s not normal, OP and you know it. Your home and those you share it with should be a sanctuary, not a place that makes you feel uncomfortable.

No it’s not entirely normal. Sounds like your relationship is a bit shit. What’s going on Op?

@Wingingthis Strange mood changes, generally him being a misery and being very tense. Had a couple of nice days but knew it wouldn’t last.

@Oneweekleft Oh ok thanks, didn’t realise, how do I do that? X

Sounds like a bad sign to me - it's normal to feel like that very occasionally, but all the time? No.

Also the reason why you feel that way is worrying. I look forward to my husband going out for the occasional evening (Pre-Covid) so I can have some time to myself (watch some TV he wouldn't enjoy, eat some food he wouldn't much like, etc), but not because I don't enjoy his company for all the time he is there. Doesn't sound like you are getting much out of your relationship. What have you done together as a family that's fun over the holidays? Does he play with your DC, take her to the park, etc?

@SummerInSun He doesn’t really take her out much unless I’ve said but does play with her sometimes. Most days out/things to do are instigated by me.
All was happy the other day until he huffed and puffed about cleaning her up after dinner (he was sat on his phone) said he’d been washing up all day. He hadn’t, he’d done the breakfast dishes, I’d made breakfast, made lunch and cleaned up/washed dishes and made dinner as usual. He apparently wanted me to wash up too. Whole mood was ruined due that. These things happen all the time and he never wants to discuss it.
When he’s gone I’m happy at home laughing and playing with Dd, I dread weekends at times too..don’t know how long I can keep up the pretence

Feel so sad for my Dd

I cant tell from what you have shared who is " right " and who is " wrong" , but I can tell you are very unhappy and if it is because of your boyfriend you dont need to justify your need to leave.

Benefits of doing this sooner rather than later is the wellbeing of your child and the chance to salvage some kind of co parenting situation before you both start to despise each other.

@Dontforgetyourbrolly Yes I believe it’s beneficial to Dd too, earlier the better, I can tell she already picks on things a little, it makes me feel so guilty and it’s so hard to keep pretending.
I want to feel