The person I'm involved with split from his ex two years ago almost. He claimed they were like brother and sister. No sex life in the end. They have remained friends. So she calls round for a cuppa.
He left their home a year ago with nothing and she kept their dogs. When we had been dating a week he told me she still goes around for coffee or meals occasionally. I was ok with it until he asked me if it would make me a little jealous. He went on to say it would show him what he meant to Me if I was a little. I didn't react the best and told him that no way was I ever going to be in some childish triangle feeling threatened by another women. We sorted it.
I went around his house and there's several photos on the wall of him kissing her at a wedding 8 years ago. In frames. So he moved out and choose to put her pictures up in his fresh start home. He says he has taken them down now but I've not been around since that claim.
She wanted to see him christmas eve for a cuppa. He was busy. But he told me after Christmas she had asked but he hadn't seen her. He then went on to tell me she had been asked on a date by an actor who was from a soap on Tele at one point. He then sarcastically said he didn't care they could do what they wanted and she could find something more boring to do than go for a drink with him. It just sounded childish. Later that night I asked him if he was sure things are over with his ex and he's fully ready to move on. He told me she was no threat and he'd never go back there.
I borrowed one of his t shirts when I stayed over for bed. He said I was the first women to ever wear his clothes. But I've seen on Facebook his ex wearing his football strip and posing. He asked me if I wanted him to delete her pictures. I said they were his memories and nothing to do with me. He said I was right they were also his history not just memories. I don't think he should delete their holiday photos etc. But perhaps it would be respectful to me if the more intimate ones were at least locked down.
I did an online tarot reading entertainment thing for a zoom party for friends last night. This tarot reader pulled out awful cards about a man I was involved with. She told me to be careful because he could be comparing me unfairly to a past women. She said our relationship would be rocky and have arguments etc but his intentions with me are to make it long term. How did a total stranger pick this up? I thought it would be a laugh not real.
Finally. I'm 33 with kids. She's 37 without kids and a career. So they did the holidays abroad and the meals out. When we first started dating he wanted to take me to the place they went. He's obsessed with the country they visited together. Last week he changed his profile picture to an old photo of him on a holiday that was from their time together.
Now I am ok with the friend thing. But I'm starting to feel he's not over her. I don't see her as a threat at all. But I don't like the thought of him wanting me to be her. I am very different and sometimes I think she's a little more attractive than me too. I just feel like all the signs are there.
Please be nice and tell me if this sounds normal?