To send my secondary age child in to school?

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My DS (11) has been offered a place as a child needing support. I wasn't expecting this, in the first lockdown when he was still at primary, they basically just wash the hands of the year sixes. They barely sent any work and I wasn't able to get him to do any of it that they did send.

I've been really worried about whether I'll be able to get him to do any work, and I do still have to work myself at home as well as having an older child who does work effectively from home.

I want to take the place and agree it would benefit him, but he's really upset at the idea. Am I being unreasonable to send him anyway?

His head of year has specifically selected him as someone who would benefit from it.

If his head has identified him as needing support, I would send him. There will be much fewer pupils in anyway so the risk is lower I think.

He needs support. Send him in.

I would send him, he has already demonstrated that he has difficulty with remote learning. My 14 year old is going in as a keyworker child.

Does he have any reason for not working well from home other than being lazy (I dont mean that nastily my DS is also a lazy so and so) if jts just laziness I would give him Monday to prove himself that he can do the work at home independently and to a good standard, if not he has to go in.

I would 100% send him in.

Send him in if you think hell benefit. With a bottle of wine for his teacher! You're lucky to have someone like that rooting for him

Thank you for the advice.

He has sensory needs, but goes to a grammar school, I'm very aware that it's way to fall behind the others.

The problem is that doing it over teams now is very different to the tiny amount of paper work he had from primary school that I couldn't get him to do, so I really don't know if he'll be able to engage at all or not as he's never done anything like this.

"It's easy to fall behind" is what that should've said.

I want to take the place and agree it would benefit him, but he's really upset at the idea. Am I being unreasonable to send him anyway?

I'd be sending him in. If he whinged at me id point out that had he engaged with home learning better in Y6 then it may not have been necessary to send him in.

I'd trust the teacher on this one. It won't have been said lightly. My year 3 DD has various SEN and I'm hoping they will allow her in as her mental health was awful last time and she couldn't access online learning at all (despite one of us supporting her all the time).

Send him in

I would take the the place, if you feel it would be beneficial. Ds's grammar school pretty much abandoned him during the last lockdown, even though he has an autism diagnosis and significant mental health difficulties.

He's now at a different school and has an EHCP about to be finalised, I've not heard yet whether he will be offered a place.

Take the place. 1000s of parents would jump at this chance

Send him in. My DD has already been off 3 weeks (finished a week earlier as school told her year not to attend🙄) and counting. Her education is suffering so if I could send her I would.

I really thought that I was going to get a ton of replies telling me I was mad to even consider sending him in. You've all really helped. Although all of mine have some additional needs, we've never had an EHCP for any of them so I really didn't think that they would be invited in – although they have all been on the special-needs register.

Send him in, he won't be alone. THere'll be others there too.

Please send him in... School don't offer these places out to kids that dont need them

He's shown he can't work under the usual system that children are under so yes, he definitely needs to go in. Otherwise he will fall further behind.