To be upset about not being asked..

[keepsmiling2021]

DP's parents live abroad. I found out yesterday on a Facebook post that he's booked for him, our DD (3) and his cousin and her son to go and stay with them in June. He mentioned it a while ago but didn't say he was booking. DP's father is going through chemo at the moment.
AIBU to think not only is it stupid of them to book it with the current situation of the world and also to not even have it mentioned to me that he booked to take DD away for a week?
I wouldn't want to go as I hate flying and I can't stand a week cooped up with his parents.
But surely I'm not out of order to think it's a silly time to book flights and to have at least had the date mentioned to me before he booked it??

@LocationUnknown

If you hide her passport he won't be able to take her.

Do you reckon I should not mention it again and then her passport suddenly be missing the day before they go

@katy1213

I think you have a bigger problem than a holiday booking.

So do I. I don't know what to do.

Hiding her passport would be a crappy thing to do. I live overseas with my DH and our children, who were all born here. If my DH hid their passports to stop me taking them to the UK to see my mum and dad, I'd go spare! OP's husband might be a wanker but that doesn't mean she can prevent him taking their daughter on holiday. She's his child, too.

Please do not hide her passport! You can't hold your daughter hostage and keep her from getting to know hew dads side of the family. He has never tried to kidnap her before and he most likely isn't trying to do that now either. Besides, he's not even from Cyprus, he has no reason to want to stay there long term.

He says I have no say as it's his child too so he would take her whether I liked it or not - and the only choice I have is to come with them or stay at home.

Legally speaking he has that completely the wrong way round as he can't take her out of the country without your consent.

Is there any chance he won't come back?

@inquietant

He says I have no say as it's his child too so he would take her whether I liked it or not - and the only choice I have is to come with them or stay at home.

Legally speaking he has that completely the wrong way round as he can't take her out of the country without your consent.

Is there any chance he won't come back?

Doing some research and in fact he is wrong - he needs my written consent apparently. I know this says former partner but with us not being married think it still stands.

www.whnsolicitors.co.uk/newsroom/family/need-permission-former-partner-take-child-abroad/