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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

If you're tier 4 are you sending your primary DCs in tomorrow?

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Laiste · 03/01/2021 10:27

(if you have the choice obvs)

We're tier 4 midlands. I've sent DD (6) in whenever the school's been open so far, but today for the first time i'm thinking i might not. I'm feeling a bit panicky. It's not like me.

I want her to go to school, she needs to and she wants to, but i want her, us (and the school staff) to be safe. I'm thinking of finding a reason to keep her off for a week or 2 to see what happens. We're in a village and there is v.little social distancing going on.

Anyone else dithering? What will you do?

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DDiva · 03/01/2021 20:21

We're tier 4 sussex. DD is in yr2 and her school is open, we will not be sending her in. DH is vulnerable and we do all we can to reduce his risk of catching covid, sending DD to schoool makes no sense.

I am aware not everyone has s choice, we do as H has been out of work due too ill health.

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Laiste · 03/01/2021 20:29

Hmmm. I think i'll keep her off for the 4 days.

So - next question:

Is everyone just being honest and telling the school why? Will we still get fined?

and :(

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Paddingtonthebear · 03/01/2021 20:34

My local council have remained silent so far but nearby Southampton council have basically said they support the unions and they won’t issue fines if parents choose not to send their children in to school at the moment

CarrotVan · 03/01/2021 20:35

Tier 4 Greater Manchester - Both kids are going in tomorrow (school nursery and y3). There have been no cases in school so far and we’ve been very careful.

maureenfrombarnsley · 03/01/2021 20:39

Mine are going in, northern T4 area.

camsie · 03/01/2021 20:40

I'm keeping my Yr 5 DS home for two weeks.

BellsaRinging · 03/01/2021 20:40

Tier 4 west mids here, with inset days tomorrow. In 2 minds but thinking to send ds2 in. I do think it's ridiculous shutting schools in some of tier 4 only though. It should be the same rules for all of the tier. If London and some of the SE have such a significant risk they need schools shutting they should be in a different tier.

CoffeeCreamandSugar · 04/01/2021 01:17

@Laiste

Hmmm. I think i'll keep her off for the 4 days.

So - next question:

Is everyone just being honest and telling the school why? Will we still get fined?

and :(

I’m in Northants also and it seems like 50/50 split on open and closed schools. Mine aren’t due back till Tuesday either. We are going to ring the school tomorrow and tell them our children aren’t coming in. I wanted to lie but OH said no because nothing will change if we lie. He’s going to ring in. If they fine us then they fine us. I can’t see it standing up in court some how with it being one of the highest areas in East Midlands!

wlv12 · 04/01/2021 01:41

No.
My 9 year old niece picked up covid at school prior to Christmas (at that point tier 2). Before she displayed any symptoms she infected my sister, who, also without displaying symptoms took my mum to a hospital appointment.
Mum also got covid and died as a result of covid pneumonia on Christmas Day.
So no. My children won’t be returning to school tomorrow (tier 4) because we are arranging her funeral and I’d like to avoid unknowingly passing covid onto anyone at the funeral as I just can’t face having another family member die alone.

Treaclepie19 · 04/01/2021 01:44

Tier 4. West Midlands.
I'm still undecided and he's due to be there in 7 hours.
Dh is thinking best to send him and I'd rather not.

Mally2020 · 04/01/2021 02:59

My mum who is a deputy head and sendco has said she is reluctant to send my youngest ( primary school) sibling into school. They have severe asthma as well as my dad and 2 other siblings and she feels schools cannot offer enough with the terrible and limited guidance given by the government...even though she has to go in for her own academy

MedusasBadHairDay · 04/01/2021 09:25

The decision got taken out of our hands, DH had to have a covid test yesterday. So won't send the kids in while waiting for the results.

MedusasBadHairDay · 04/01/2021 09:27

wlv12 Sending some un-mumsnetty hugs

Nonamesavail · 04/01/2021 09:40

@wlv12

No. My 9 year old niece picked up covid at school prior to Christmas (at that point tier 2). Before she displayed any symptoms she infected my sister, who, also without displaying symptoms took my mum to a hospital appointment. Mum also got covid and died as a result of covid pneumonia on Christmas Day. So no. My children won’t be returning to school tomorrow (tier 4) because we are arranging her funeral and I’d like to avoid unknowingly passing covid onto anyone at the funeral as I just can’t face having another family member die alone.

So sorry x

RememberSelfCompassion · 04/01/2021 09:43

Def being honest. They will need enough of us to be hinest to see that parents dont feel safe.

RememberSelfCompassion · 04/01/2021 09:44

Wlv12 im so so sorry.
It's asymptomatic spread that worries me.

Treaclepie19 · 04/01/2021 10:00

My ds has gone and I really wish I'd kept him home. Dh was keen for him to go and ds does struggle with the lack of routine and needs to go for social and speech reasons but still. We have a 3 month old and I'm so worried.

Whatafustercluck · 04/01/2021 10:17

Tier 4 East of England. Inset today but yes, will send him in tomorrow.

School has had a few scares but only one positive result. Teachers and head all seem fine to return.

I'm group 10 on the vaccination list, dh is group 9. We're not in contact with anyone high risk and both wfh currently. I believe there is more risk to an otherwise healthy child from the car journey on the way into school (15 min drive). I am not sure that keeping schools open is a wise decision for society (and the NHS specifically) generally, but ds will continue to go until such time as a decision is taken to close them. Education, friendships and a degree of normality is important for kids' mental health - but I'm increasingly aware that there's a balance to be struck to protect others by minimising spread.

I actually think they'd have been better keeping schools closed for a couple more weeks to continue to suppress transmission a bit longer until more people are vaccinated and numbers begin to drop. As it is, I think the government will again act too late and that will result in schools being closed for longer. I would have supported keeping them closed for a couple of extra weeks on the back of the Christmas hols. The reality is that now they'll need to close for longer because the virus will re-emerge when the kids begin mixing again without a sufficient break between 18th Dec and now.

justanotherneighinparadise · 04/01/2021 10:42

@wlv12

No. My 9 year old niece picked up covid at school prior to Christmas (at that point tier 2). Before she displayed any symptoms she infected my sister, who, also without displaying symptoms took my mum to a hospital appointment. Mum also got covid and died as a result of covid pneumonia on Christmas Day. So no. My children won’t be returning to school tomorrow (tier 4) because we are arranging her funeral and I’d like to avoid unknowingly passing covid onto anyone at the funeral as I just can’t face having another family member die alone.

😔

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Laiste · 04/01/2021 12:15

@wlv12 i am so very sorry to hear that. Sending you and your family strength thoughts and prayers

No news from our school. I was hoping to get up to a closure email.

Has anyone any more updates? Changed minds?

@Treaclepie19 horrible being worried and stressed. I'm going to be worried and stressed either way i think! I hate the thought of voluntarily keeping DD away from school and will be thinking about what she's missing every hour of the next few days. At the same time i just feel it's wrong for her to go in this week.

Thanks for the replies about what to say to the school. I will ring tomorrow and be honest. Fine or no fine.

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Negnog · 04/01/2021 12:41

We’ve just had an email now asking us to fill in Keyworker details if applicable by Wednesday at the latest. It does make sense for them to do this ‘just in case’ though so they understand the need for provision.

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Laiste · 04/01/2021 12:52

All our emails from the school are so jolly and full of bon homie. The tone never seems to change weather they are telling you PE day has changed or that yet another child has covid and yet another year bubble has burst.

We've had no communications since xmas eve. which was one line of news of a positive covid case. It's an academy - i'm not totally clear if that means they have to abide by council decisions re:covid or not.

I'd love to know what the majority mood of the staff really is over there. Are they all in there going ''we hope to god that those who can stay at home and be safe will stay at home and be safe''? Or are they all bouncing about ''looking forward to a brand new sparkly term with shiney happy teachers full of lovely learning ideas for Every Single Child'' which is how the emails usually read

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