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AIBU?

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Aibu to send them school when I won't be at work?

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Justneedadvice636465 · 03/01/2021 06:36

So schools are closed here for me but I am classed as a key worker so they can still go.

I work 3 sometimes 4 days a week on shift work. I'm not on the roster so I get given any shift, any day etc but we can swap duties so I usually I work nights while the kids are at school as I can't work the school hours. My shifts start/finish random times like 5.47am start or 02.39am finish etc its not your straight on the hour start or finish. When schools shut before I worked nights still as their dad (were not together) works during the day so would have them in the evening when I work then leave for work in the morning. Usually I get home around 2.30-3.30 in the morning. I will usually nap for a few hours then get them up do breakfast clothes etc then drop them school and then come back and get more sleep before school run in the afternoon. The school were aware of this last time and were really nice about me 'needing to get my sleep too' but this time I can't help but feel really bad that they are going school while I sleep.

Of course if they don't go I don't really sleep during the day which is hard when I go work as I need to have 100% concentration but I just can't help but feel I'm putting the kids at risk and the teachers too. I know I need the rest and I'm not just sending them to send them but I just feel bad. Aibu to still send them to school when technically I won't be working at the time they are in school?

OP posts:
Iggly · 03/01/2021 19:07

@TheHoneyBadger

Yeah but numbers make a difference. I'm just not getting why it's op or school when there's a father in the picture Confused I'm seeing it a lot on here in various forms.

Like, women saying how are they going to cope and when they finally mention the father he can't possibly be expected to contribute to childcare for their own children because they have terribly important jobs when the conversation hasn't even taken place with the father.

Unfortunately that’s just how it is immediately for most women 🤷🏻‍♀️

Change is a long time coming but will take a long time to happen.

TheHoneyBadger · 03/01/2021 21:27

Can't see it ever happening if men aren't even expected to contribute to their own children's care by their partners/ex partners.

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