Nits

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There are two parents who live apart in this situation. Parent A and Parent B. One parent is RP other one obviously isn't but child spends 2/3 days (depending on it being term time or not) with NRP.

Child is found to have nits at parent A's House after spending 7 days there (not the usual but parent B had previous 7 days as it's school holidays). At drop off parent A says child has nits and parent B needs to treat them. At parent B's House there are 2 other smaller children who definitely do not have nits. At parents A's House there is one other child who also has them.

AIBU to think parent A should keep the child at their house until they have been treated as other child in the house will need treated as well and as it's not in parent B's house but they would risk passing them on to Parent B's other children?

So YANBU = Parent A should treat.
YABU = Parent B should treat.

Yep, the A and B is pointless.
You’re mum, child was with dad, dad was too fucking lazy to treat his own child for nits. Slow hand clap for him. Of course he’s in the wrong.

The only time it’s OK in my book is if child starts scratching the day they’re due home, dad hasn’t got stuff in and kid says, “mum has” and dad checks with you if you mind doing it.

Honestly, I don’t know why you’d even ask for other perspectives. Who the hell is going to say dad was right not to bother?

@Cocomarine yep, totally agree with you! I obviously just needed a vent and should have just explained properly in the first place. Didnt want any bias incase there was a slight chance I was in the wrong.

I'll leave it at that, thanks all 😊

Who cares just bloody treat the poor children and put them before you bickering, for gods sake it’s nits not the plague.

Imo parent A should phone parent B when discovered bits straight away to discuss the situation. Then parent A should have treated his household as soon as it was possible, (considering shop closures etc) and before drop off but if it’s not possible ( too close to drop off) parent A should have discussed this with parent B.
Some parents B might prefer to treat DC themselves to make sure it’s done properly but there is a question of another child from parent’s A household.

Really don’t think it matters who treats them, they just need sorting. The parents need to stop bickering really and I think B is a bit of a twat to turn their own child away until they’re nit free. It isn’t a disease.

Treating nuts is a massive pain in the arse though! Anyone who wasn't a bit pissed off at having to do it when somebody else already should have deserves a medal. But you should still get on with it though. Such is the lot of mothers responsible parents.

Nuts 🤣🤣🤣

Is the child in question your stepchild? It doesn’t matter who treats the child. Both parents should want the child free of nits. If parent B is supposed to have him/her then parent B should treat the child, even though it was caught at parent A. Poor child being turned away by parent B because they have nits?! That sort of thing will stay with the child for a long time. They haven’t done anything wrong or caught it on purpose