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For deleting Facebook ?

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chocolateorangeinhaler · 01/01/2021 20:41

Just that really. Got up early as couldn't sleep as usual. Scrolling through Facebook whilst waiting for the kettle to boil. Offered a stranger a bit of advice as they were asking for money on a go fund me to pay for vets bills for an op on a horse. Had a barrage of abuse back from the OP. So there and then deleted my account, realized I am interacting more with complete strangers than my partner. Felt on cloud nine all day, haven't picked up my phone all day to check what's going on. I feel free. Has anyone else done this and had the same feeling of a weight being lifted off your shoulders?

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teaandcustardcreamsx · 01/01/2021 23:03

Never used Facebook but I felt the same way with Instagram/Snapchat! DeactivAted Instagram september 18, went back to it for approx five minutes on a whim at stupid o’clock in the middle of lockdown, got fed up and deleted. Kept myself signed out of Snapchat for all of lockdown yet the group chat is of course on there so I only use it for that now everyone tries to contact me that way. Switched off notifications now, found myself rarely going on now

Yeahnahmum · 01/01/2021 23:10

I only have it to see what my friends that live in another country are up to. And i follow my favorite hobby pages. Thats it. No other nonsense. So i only follow what i love and what enriches my life. No clutter 😊

LimaFoxtrotCharlie · 01/01/2021 23:12

@cerealkillah

I've deleted the app from my phone. It's very liberating. If I deactivate my account can I still use Messenger though? I suspect not..
Yes, you can still use messenger even if you’ve deactivated facebook - I came off facebook about 3 years ago but use messenger a lot
BlueThistles · 01/01/2021 23:30

yeah I don't get the Instagram trend...

love Mumsnet though Xmas Grin

littlepattilou · 02/01/2021 14:38

@chocolateorangeinhaler I have always loved facebook, and have found it useful for keeping in touch with family who live overseas/out of the area, and it's also good for keeping in touch with friends who I don't see often.

But I am also getting tired of it now. Tired of the competitive parenting, tired of how wonderful people make their lives out to be, tired of the posts that try and make you feel guilty for having a roof over your head, and try and encourage you to give money, or sign a petition etc..,

And I get annoyed with the 'I'll bet this doesn't get many shares' type posts, and 'I know only the best people will share this,' and 'I tagged all the women who I know are feisty and brave. Don't be offended if I haven't tagged you' bullshit kind of posts...

In addition (and someone started a thread about this yesterday,) I hate the 'people you may know' bullshit. Someone I am friends with has 700 people of the 'friends' list, and apparently, because I am on their friends list, I must know the other 699 people on there. Hmm

In addition, I HATE it that people who you work with can get to see/speak to your friends, relatives, neighbours etc... and they all get to speak, even though they never meet. I think my workmates and relatives and friends and neighbours, are 4 different groups of people who would never meet - or speak - in real life, and yet here they are communicating on MY facebook.

My ex-manager in my old job, (some 7-8 years back,) sent friend requests to my husband, my daughter, my best friend, and my fucking cousin on facebook several years back. I thought 'what the fuck? You don't even know them!' She had never met any of them. Not even my husband. My daughter declined the friend request as she was 15, and my manager was 44, and my daughter had never clapped eyes on her. She said 'wtf is she trying to add me for?' I said 'I dunno.Confused'

A few days later, she asked me why my daughter and DH hadn't accepted her friend requests! (My friend and cousin accepted!) I said 'they don't accept people they don't know. She was really offended and gave me a Hmm kind of look. She then went on to keep making comments on my friend's, and cousin's posts and pics. Her attitude pissed me off so much that I deactivated my facebook. My friend and my cousin told me (a month or so later) that she was so weird that they unfriended her.

My manager noticed after a few days, and asked me why they had unfriended her. I said I have no idea as I am not on it now. She said 'ask them then.' Fuck me, it caused SO much hassle. Sad

So I made a new facebook, and added only family, and around 5 or 6 friends. No colleagues, and no neighbours or acquaintances, (or 'people I may know,' BUT NEVER DO!)

But yeah, I am not a facebook snob, but I have been thinking of deleting it myself actually. Maybe keep in touch via email or whatsapp...

CrotchBurn · 02/01/2021 14:46

I need to figure out how to ban MN from my phone!!!

Gottalovesummer · 02/01/2021 14:48

Did this recently as fed up of the rabid anti vaxxers on there. They seem to shout louder than everyone else and I got tired of reading it all.

SelfIcellation · 02/01/2021 15:28

Ditched Fb years ago. Still use their Instagram and WhatsApp though. Insta not much at all, post once a month, WhatApp is used to stat in touch with colleagues and family and friends.

Norwayreally · 02/01/2021 15:30

Deleted it years ago, never really liked it anyway. Deleted Instagram a couple of months ago which I always loved, it was my last social media account. Couldn’t bear how much time I frittered away on it anymore or how it made me feel mentally.

blowinahoolie · 02/01/2021 15:33

I use WhatsApp, but use a pseudonym on Facebook.

madcow88 · 02/01/2021 15:34

I deleted it 2 years ago. I've never looked back, it was much easier than I thought it was going to be. I know longer get depressed at the sight of how everyone else's life is much better than mine. Instead I get that from Mumsnet 😂

Tianatiers · 02/01/2021 15:37

I haven't deleted Facebook but don't remember the last time I logged in to check it. It does feel good but I think I've just replaced it with mumsnet! The thing is there's so much I want to talk about that I feel I can't talk to my real friends about as I've realised this year that we think wildly differently about so many things.

IncorrigibleTitmouse · 02/01/2021 15:38

I left Facebook about 3 years ago and I don’t miss it one bit. It’s such a time suck. I also deleted all my other social media in the summer. I decided that I would just personally keep up with people I actively wanted in my life and it’s proven to be much healthier!

QueenOfLabradors · 02/01/2021 15:39

If I didn't use it for my work - it's my main digital advertising platform - I'd be off like a shot!

tinytemper66 · 02/01/2021 15:39

I deleted it over 2 years ago after I broke my leg and I could see how much time I spent on it whilst laid up.

Lizzie523 · 02/01/2021 15:46

Me too @QueenOfLabradors. Have had a long Christmas break including a social media detox and has made me see how happier I am when I'm not working on social media all day.

Think I'll be looking at a career change when the time is right.

VeganVeal · 02/01/2021 16:27

Never used it, really cant see the point, from what I read its full of fuckwits.

HedgieHog · 02/01/2021 17:01

I started on it early 2000s when I was working abroad it was very new and a better way of keeping in touch than email which I’d previously done.
I deleted it about 5/6 years ago, fed up of the attention seeking huns/ photos of people’s food/ baby scan profile pics etc
I lasted a couple of weeks and reactivated it.
A month later I was gone for good. I’ve never deleted it just reactivated it mainly due to photos so have occasionally nipped on.
I do now have a work account as I have to manage a work closed Facebook group so reluctantly created one with my work email. I don’t use it at all apart from the group. I had no friends for about 6 months till I met a colleague for drinks and she insisted on tagging me which meant I hit other requests, only work people.
They will be very disappointed they can’t snoop on me as I have nothing but a profile pic 😂

peakygal · 02/01/2021 17:04

I deleted it back in June and my mental health massively improved. Don't know if that's a coincidence or not but I won't ever go back

nosswith · 02/01/2021 17:35

I have never been on Facebook. I feel I have made the correct decision, even if it is from a dislike of Mark Zuckerberg and his refusal to moderate the site adequately.

I'm glad to read of how you feel OP.

AllGone · 02/01/2021 17:38

I deleted it yesterday. I was on it way too much and missing out on my family. Felt good.

Sideorderofchips · 02/01/2021 17:46

Got rid of mine after ex husbands other woman decided she was going to stalk everything I did or said and join any group I was in and get her friends to message me to try and get me to bitch about her

Best thing I ever did.

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