Facebook and all the bloody people I might know!

[Cecily42]

I have a Facebook account mainly to stay in touch with old school and university friends who live abroad or in other parts of the U.K. I don’t really interact with people I see often or work with on Facebook. My privacy settings are strict but I can’t seem to get rid of the bloody people you might know list who pops up all the time. I also see from DHs account that my friends and colleagues are being suggested to him as friends. I find it creepy and intrusive. I sometimes get really strange people suggested to me who I have no friends in common with and mums I didn’t even know from primary school gates when my kids have long left this school behind.

Apart from asking if anyone knows a way to blast the list to outer space and keep my Facebook universe private, I suppose my AIBU would be:

YABU: you give up your privacy when joining Facebook so deal with it
YANBU: lots of people feel like you and Facebook should find a way to turn this list of friends off

I had a friend when I was 4/5 . Our parents were friends.
His family moved a couple of times as did my family. We ended up several counties away from each other and by the mid eighties contact ended.
I moved far away from my home town in 1990.
By that time ,
In 2015 I discovered that this 'friend' from the sixties... was someone I may know.
Still find it bizarre.

Well you don’t have to add them and they don’t get to see your posts til you do (assuming you post privately). So I just ignore the list.

Unlink it from your phone book on your phone

FB is designed to be a social as possible.
In FB.world.thier idealmis everyone posting publicly and adding every man and rbier dog as.friends.
The app/site is geared to increase social interaction.

Just ignore it.

It's a social media site, they want you to connect to as many people as possible. They aren't likely to remove that function. Keep on scrolling past it.

I have a Facebook account mainly to stay in touch with old school and university friends who live abroad or in other parts of the U.K.

this is the only reason to have it... why does everyone feel the need to explain this...

Just ignore it. I sometimes look through just out of interest but very rarely add any of them.

Yanbu. I don't have fb, but signed up for an instagram account last year and was unpleasantly surprised when within minutes of joining I had two followers. Didn't realise it would broadcast my joining to all my phone contacts. I realise posting this probably shows my ignorance of all things sm, but not all users are going to be sophisticated.

I didn't care for it, so I've not logged in again.

Right, so if anyone is interested I think I have partly managed to answer my own question.

Yesterday I went into my settings and changed the who can send me friend requests from everyone to only friends of friends. Today my people you might know list has gone and I am hoping to have muted some of it.