To struggle to understand how someone can believe this?!

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Friend and her partner are hoping to have a baby, same sex relationship so they are going through assisted conception. My friend read something online (am yet to find the source) that says that the vaccine affect fertility and will stop her partner having their baby, so neither of them will have the vaccine.

She isnt a stupid person, neither is her partner, but when I suggested that she look more into it she insisted that this was her research and it is FACT. I am trying to be sympathetic but if I roll my eyes anymore I think they will get stuck pointing backwards!

AIBU by thinking of doing some research of my own and sending it to her to put their minds at rest?

Why is it so important to you to prove them wrong? Why not let them believe what ever bollocks they want to believe?

I don't understand why you would struggle to understand why someone might believe it, OP? It's not an unreasonable thing to be cautious about at all.

Isn’t it extremely difficult to ever test for vaccines and the effect of fertility because of the whole causation/ correlation dilemma. If nearly the whole population has been vaccinated at a young age (with various vaccines), how would we ever know if fertility was impacted in later life or not (eg across the population as a whole)? Just curious, it’s not an area I’ve researched myself.

I cant see how the vaccine would affect fertility though, I really can't

Are you a scientist who has been working on this though? Are you a fertility expert? No, me neither. I mean how would any member of the public know this? Come to think of it how would even the scientists or fertility experts themselves know this yet?

I have seen and read many times that the vaccine can effect fertility, though I have no idea whether that is fact or just opinion. And maybe if I had read other articles I could well have read that the vaccine didn't effect fertility. Again that could be fact or opinion. I am not sure anyone yet knows. There are so many risks and so many unknowns, and we are only privy to a fraction of them, so not sure how you, or any of us, could have a definite answer to your question. You are saying you are going to do your research to send to your friends, but is the information even out there yet for you to do that? And to be frank even if it is, would what you discover be able to put your friend's minds at rest? I don't mean they won't believe you, or be grateful for your interest, but if a well meaning friend of mine did this, I am not sure I would accept their findings unless they were suitably qualified to really know. I am not sure I, not being a scientist, would be able to understand much of the research as yet, though of course you may. And not being a fertility expert not sure I would be able to interpret the findings anyway. As far as I know the vaccine has not yet been given to anyone who is pregnant and obviously there have not yet been any babies conceived or born. But I could be wrong, as I could be wrong about everything.

The one thing that I am definite about though is in the last 9 months I have learnt that all of us have our own views and our own differences and own concerns, and they are valid for us as no-one else walks in our shoes. So for that reason I would refrain from trying to persuade them, however well meaning you intend to be.

Friend isnt, partner has asthma.

I would be tempted to point out that being dead also affects fertility...

I don't understand why you would struggle to understand why someone might believe it, OP? It's not an unreasonable thing to be cautious about at all

Now why didn't I write a straightforward post like this ChestnutStuffing instead of rambling on for half an hour as I have just done!! You say it perfectly!!

I have heard this to but not done any research into it.

The theory is the vaccine attacks the spike proteins of COVID. But these are the same or similar proteins needed for the placenta to attach.... again I have no idea if this is in anyway true.
But I really don't think you can sneer at your friends for their concerns. Every drug/vaccine/medication can have risks of some kind and with something so new the risks aren't going to be known for awhile!

They're not likely to be offered the vaccine for at least 9 months, if not longer. Couldn't you just suggest they review the complete bollocks"research" down the line?