To ask who you are in your dream life?

[CardoMondo]

2020 was shite wasn’t it? Well yesterday I felt a bit weird all day ... a bit lost in thought, started thinking about how I’m wasting my one life not TRYING to achieve my dreams. I feel the same today, I can’t stop thinking about it.

Who are you in your dream life and what stops you achieving it? I’m not talking about impossible stuff like bring a princess or something unattainable but realistically, what does your dream life look like and why are you not living it?

In my dream world, I’m an author. I live in no a secluded house in the country and spend my days writing whilst earning a decent income from doing so.

What stops me? I’m too bloody lazy and can’t concentrate long enough to put pen to paper.

Ignore the typos, bloody daft phone. I can actually write very good English 😂

A doctor! My biggest regret is not applying for med school - I more than met the grades and just didn’t have the confident to apply.

I live in a period detached house with my DH and two children.

I am a successful scientist/singer lol.. don't know how I manage it

I'm a SAHM with a wealthy husband. I can go to the gym every day while kids are at school, prep the dinner and help with homework/crafts. My house is clean and tidy, my kids are always in ironed clothes and participate in extra curricular activities like dancing, horse riding, swimming, gymnastics...

IRL I'm the breadwinner with a stressful job and a husband who doesn't pull his weight, my eldest is a latchkey kid and my youngest in full time childcare!

In my dream life I earn enough from my small 'esty selling' business that i dont have to work for other people my entire life. I do freelance digital marketing for drs, aesthetic clinics etc and most of them are massive bellends and talk to you like you're a piece of shit because they are all high earners an live in zone 1 and naturally think they are better than you. Its very stressful.

I often daydream about this.
First of all I'd be a really happy and positive person, the best partner and mum (I do try). I'd be taking my photography buisness to the next step and working from my own studio rather than home studio, I'd have lots of financial security and my own home. I'd be more minimalist and spend my money on adventures not things.

What's stopping me? Motherhood is full on and busy I suppose and I started having my babies in my early twenty's so I didn't accumulate a lot of savings before this. I'm terrible at saving money, I buy things when I feel overwhelmed with life, stressed or sad for a small high. I'm very easily influenced by the things others have on Instagram etc too 😣 I spend all my time putting my work and children first I don't leave a lot of time for myself and my relationship.

My life isn't bad and I'm very lucky to have all that I have but I think we do all dream slightly about an 'ideal' life. Probably makes us more unhappy sometimes doing that though.

Would also be great for my husband to earn enough that i wouldnt have to worry so much about bringing in an income to cover the bills. I currently earn the same amount as him but i have the added stress of being self employed and looking after DS whilst working from home.

I'm retired with a good pension and running a hipster market stall and doing lots of nice community project activity.

I'm also very fit and healthy and running marathons.

I'm very far away from this .....

I'm a writer who lives alone with a dog, runs every day and is slim with a nice wardrobe. I'm doing a degree in psychotherapy, volunteering with a bereavement charity and enjoying photography and hiking as a weekend hobby. Bliss!