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Sister selling DS furniture

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Givemethechocolate · 01/01/2021 09:30

I'm quite upset about this. I sold my DS bedroom furniture to my sister 2 days ago. It's in excellent condition and it wasn't cheap when we first brought it, it's a good quality brand.
I'd sent her pics of the furniture before came to collect it so she knew what it was like. I only charged her 50 for the toddler bed/mattress and chest of draws.

I had a notification like night on my phone to say my sister had listed these items on the marketplace on social media. She's put the price on for £180. She didn't tell me she didn't want them, or unhappy about them.
I know it's now hers to do what she wants but 1) surely you would mention it to me first and as politeness say its not quite right I'm going to sell and 2) why is she charging so much more money. I feel like she's making a profit out of my kindness to charge her hardly anything for it because she's my sister.

Aibu to be upset about this?

OP posts:
PicaK · 01/01/2021 10:09

She's missed the important part of the transaction with you - the loving emotional part. No wonder you're upset.
Unless she's planning to give you half the profits....
How desperate for cash is she?

LannieDuck · 01/01/2021 10:12

It would be ok if you hadn't given her 'mates rates' because she's your sister.

...I would simply make a decision never to give her mates rates for anything again. From now on, you charge her the same price that you'd list stuff online.

Emeraldshamrock · 01/01/2021 10:14

I don't think there is anything wrong with seller no longer needed furniture to a family member at a cut price with todays online market.
The furniture was obviously expensive if she is asking 180.
Plenty of people could pay 180 for a set worth 600/700 in good condition.

Original poster
Givemethechocolate · 01/01/2021 10:15

The original furniture cost roughly 800 4 years ago so I'm well aware it's not worth that now.
Well I'm glad I didn't it to her for free now because I'd be even more annoyed.
I've confronted her and she thinks she's done no wrong. She said she's free to do what she likes which is true! I just pointed out that it would have been polite as her sister to have let me know rather than me getting a Facebook notification.
I've told her she's hurt me but I haven't received a sorry I upset you.
Yes she does have form for doing stuff like this with others.
She clearly wasn't going to tell me and was hoping I wouldn't know.
Yes she does have a young toddler.

OP posts:
Pimmsypimms · 01/01/2021 10:20

Yep that's shitty, she should have given you the opportunity to buy it back and for you to resell it, especially after only 2 days! Makes me wonder if this was her plan all along!
Well, now you know. Don't make the same mistake again by giving her first dibs at mates rates!

rainbowstardrops · 01/01/2021 10:24

Wow, that's incredibly shitty of her! I wouldn't rush to do her another favour any time soon that's for sure!

AlCalavicci · 01/01/2021 10:25

Unless there are Extenuating circumstances like she is suddenly coming to financial difficulties or or needs a very quick turnaround of cash I would be annoyed too.
I presume she has a toddler that would have used the bed ?
I which case I would send her a few msgs like I hope DC slept well in his new bed , I love the fact that it is staying in the family , it can be gifted / sold on once your DC has grow out of it and not before you cheeky mare

As PP said I would put a comment on the same site , I sold this to you for £50 , do you really need to make such a high profit in two days .

I know that once you have sold something the new owners can do what they like with it but this really would not sit right with me.

Anydreamwilldo12 · 01/01/2021 10:28

That is so sneaky of her. I would be furious. I wouldn't be giving her or selling her anything else ever. What a cow.

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 01/01/2021 10:29

It's the "2 days" later the issue. If she had bought them cheap from you, used them, THEN sold them back, absolutely fine.

Clearly planned to make a profit? Yes, it's rather rude.

Do not give her anything ever again, and if you SELL to her for whatever reason, sell her to market price.

I wouldn't charge my own family, but it's unfair to attack the OP about it.

Emeraldshamrock · 01/01/2021 10:30

Her reply says it all. Definitely a C.F.

Terracottasaur · 01/01/2021 10:31

Yanbu, that’s bloody cheeky. You could have made the same money if you hadn’t been giving her a low family price. I would tell her you aren’t happy and that you want it back to sell yourself.

WhereverIGoddamnLike · 01/01/2021 10:32

I'm sorry but I have to ask, has she advertised it on Facebook as a "chest of draws"?

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 01/01/2021 10:32

Jesus Christ, who looks at their sisters generosity and thinks 'oh, I can make a quick buck out of this'. Cheeky cow. YANBU.

TonMoulin · 01/01/2021 10:32

She is making money out of your kindness. :(:(

AllTheCakes · 01/01/2021 10:34

She clearly doesn’t care she is making a profit from you. How did you selling it to her come about? Was she in need and you offered to sell it to her cheap? She must be struggling for money or just a CF.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/01/2021 10:34

I’d make that the last time I pass anything on to her. She’s rather shot herself in the foot.

LizDiz · 01/01/2021 10:35

This is the type of thing my sister would do. Some people just think of things in this way and its about the £. I am assuming you sold it to her thinking it was intended for her child? I would message her back and say you want it back and sell it yourself.

emilybrontescorsett · 01/01/2021 10:38

I'm in agreement with other posters here. She is profiting from your kindness. Don't sell/give her anything else, let someone else who will be grateful benefit in future. I'd wonder what else she has sold.

justanotherneighinparadise · 01/01/2021 10:40

@Givemethechocolate

I'm quite upset about this. I sold my DS bedroom furniture to my sister 2 days ago. It's in excellent condition and it wasn't cheap when we first brought it, it's a good quality brand. I'd sent her pics of the furniture before came to collect it so she knew what it was like. I only charged her 50 for the toddler bed/mattress and chest of draws.

I had a notification like night on my phone to say my sister had listed these items on the marketplace on social media. She's put the price on for £180. She didn't tell me she didn't want them, or unhappy about them.
I know it's now hers to do what she wants but 1) surely you would mention it to me first and as politeness say its not quite right I'm going to sell and 2) why is she charging so much more money. I feel like she's making a profit out of my kindness to charge her hardly anything for it because she's my sister.

Aibu to be upset about this?

This is the kind of shit i went NC over and never regretted it for a second.
Viviennemary · 01/01/2021 10:40

That is an absolute and utter cheek. She'd get nothing from me again. Some folk!

lazylump72 · 01/01/2021 10:42

We live and learn OP..You will know never to do it again.Ok so she might gain a few quid if she is lucky but she has lost a lot more than she will ever know with you.You can;t buy love,respect,honesty,decency and trust. Some people really are the its and your grabby sister is one of those people.Rude and shocking behaviour from her.Let this be the last time she shafts you.

PrtScn · 01/01/2021 10:43

@BareGrylls

You sold unwanted stuff to family? That seems a bet mean to me.
This. My sister and I also have an unwritten rule that if we give each other a high value item and sell it later on we give the other half the money we got.
Fatladyslim · 01/01/2021 10:45

A tenner says you don't get a 'I'm sorry I upset you' but do get a 'I'm sorry you are upset'

The world's best backwards apologies x

Fatladyslim · 01/01/2021 10:45

I really don't know where the x came from then!

ReceptacleForTheRespectable · 01/01/2021 10:46

@Pimmsypimms

Yep that's shitty, she should have given you the opportunity to buy it back and for you to resell it, especially after only 2 days! Makes me wonder if this was her plan all along! Well, now you know. Don't make the same mistake again by giving her first dibs at mates rates!
Of course it was her plan all along! She's had the furniture for literally a couple of days!