To be sad 2020 is over

[Thewinterofdiscontent]

To me, 2020 was the one random year in a years of progressively twatty years to give to give us freedom.
The year public health overtook profit. The year free giving and raising money became the norm. The year people who were just about money couldn’t be knobs about it,
The year we had to think about what we grow, produce and make and how this effects others.

I’m dreading 2021 frankly. It’s going to be a nasty whiney year of recriminations.

And NONE of them have seen each other! M
ALL spent Christmas in our own homes!

Havent seen each other for months and months !!!!!!

@Thewinterofdiscontent

To me, 2020 was the one random year in a years of progressively twatty years to give to give us freedom. The year public health overtook profit. The year free giving and raising money became the norm. The year people who were just about money couldn’t be knobs about it, The year we had to think about what we grow, produce and make and how this effects others.

I’m dreading 2021 frankly. It’s going to be a nasty whiney year of recriminations.

I can’t even find the words. I am in a very fortunate position - jobs and house secure and I know how lucky I am but my dd has gone to Uni and been unable to have any sort of normal experience there. My d dad has undergone chemo with no one there to support him and myself and dh have seen our parents probably half a dozen times in total over the past 9 months from a distance of 2/3 metres apart. One friend has seen her d dad die from Covid , her mum being yelled at not to touch him in the nursing home (they were married over 60 years) . Another friend didn’t see her d dad since March as he was in a home until she was finally allowed in after he had a massive seizure and she was allowed to see him before he died . Yet another friend was desperate to see her DM in a nursing home in Dublin on Christmas Day until that was stopped at the 23rd hr. I have been vegetarian for 34 years and my dd is vegan but frankly at this point in time I couldn’t care less about what we ‘produce , make and how this affects others’ and I’m glad you had ‘freedom’ but most of us didn't have freedom to even spend proper time with the people we love most in the world.

The Mumsnet phrase always used to be "fuck off to the far side of fuck and when you get there fuck off some more". I'm kinda sad that its been changed

On a personal level 2020 was better than 2019. But I'm still glad it's over. Although I'm not convinced 2021 will be any better.

I think I see what you're pointing to, OP, that the constraints we have been under have brought out some positives. Which is absolutely true, and we should celebrate and continue them. But taken as a whole, the people already at a disadvantage before the pandemic have suffered the most during the pandemic

2020 was good to me for football and for another reason which is really quite distasteful to crow about. However, many are bereaved, others have lost their jobs and more are at the end of their tether. This is about everybody, not just for me and for that reason, I echo FinallyFluid in saying fuck the fuck off and when you get there, fuck off some more to both 2020 and the OP.

2020 has been shit.
Not for me personally - I've quite enjoyed lockdown and nothingness but for my family and probably most people, it's been hell.
I look forward to 2021.

Where does your income come from op?

OP, read the room 🙄

No freedom, no jobs, no economy, reduced schooling. Yeah what a brilliant year.
I'm still waiting for respect or even a thanks from most customers where I work. Supermarket staff don't and never will get respect.
Anyway 2020 has been shit for many and I doubt this year will be much better.

@Cabinfever10

Am going to go against the grain here *@Thewinterofdiscontent* and say YANBU ds (asd/adhd and other issues) has thrived this year with lockdown and home learning. Social distanced learning was amazing for him as "everyone is like him " and for the first time in his life the world is perfect for him (bar masks) I half wish that things could stay the same for him and the other half of me hopes that everyone else learns what it's like for people who aren't "normal ". Should say I also have asd and have found this year the easiest and most relaxing of my life as no-one expects "social norms" from me

@Cabinfever10 Look up the meaning of "going against the grain" it doesn't mean what you think it does. Next time you want to use a phrase of which you have no knowledge do a little research first

Noooo, OP. It may have had it purpose, but surely you are glad 2020 is over now.
Now with the vaccines, we can actually be pretty sure 2021 will be better - can't wait!

As someone who needlessly lost my dad to covid, no YABVVU.

I am going into 2021 making more conscious choices. I think if anything 2020 has been a wake up call to us all. We are the driving force behind pandemics. We need to change, we need to think more of our inhabitants, the natural world, our environment and stop being selfish and start respecting the planet more than we do!
Just because we can’t see the destruction that we’re doing, it doesn’t mean it’s not happening, that’s what I’ve taken from 2020.

I think this year has shown the true colours of some people that I am close too, and not in a good way, it’s been an eye opener and the repercussions will last a long time but I’m glad to see the back of it, don’t think the future is much happier for now though.

@Fuckingcrustybread, actually Merriam Webster defines “against the grain” as the opposite of normal or usual, which I’m pretty sure is what @Cabinfever10 intended, seeing as she was expressing an opinion she knew was unpopular.

There really is no reason to get testy and unpleasant with random strangers.

So much loss of life and livelihoods.

Incredibly insensitive to say it’s been a good year.

Had public health taken over from profit, Bozo would not have entered into the Brexit transition period at the end of January nor “negotiated” a deal with more holes in it than a sieve. He and all his mates have just made millions. Profit has always been on the tories agenda. Just not for the many.

Yes self growth and community spirit and all that.
Is this wine speaking?
What do you have in mind ? Grow vegetables for food banks, free solar panels and sanction all plastic producers?

@Yellownotblue
Thank you for the incorrect definition and it's really not up to you how I behave, you're not my mummy. I'll get as testy as I like.

I work for a charity that has been crippled We've had to cut our services and staffing in half.

We are lucky.

Thousands of charities are in a worse position and are weeks or a few months away from appointing administrators and closing.

Beyond that children and young people have suffered enormous damage to their education, wellbeing, mental and physical health.

Hundreds of thousands have lost their jobs.

70,000 in the UK alone are dead.

No idea what kind of utopia you think this is.

But fuck off.

Freedom????

My husband went into heart failure in February and was in hospital for 5.5 weeks, having open heart surgery. I do feel so grateful it went well. We lost my beloved dog, I am so lucky to have a job, but have never worked so hard or felt so at sea with the new demands. We ended the year having to put my dementing mother in a home. She told me that she couldn’t believe she’d give birth to something as evil as me for doing it. And Brexit breaks my heart, frankly.
I’ve had better years.

I’m so sorry cherrycee