This happened to me in early 2015. Since the #metoo movement and generally more public attention towards the treatment of women, as well as me growing up, I'm left wondering.
Long story short I had broken up with my partner of 2.5 years. We had to continue living together for a few weeks while I found somewhere else to go (he owned the flat and I was a recent graduate so couldn't afford to up and leave straight away)
In that time he forced me to give him oral sex 'one last time'. I remember clearly having tears in my eyes while it happened and to this day can't understand now he could stand and enjoy that while I was so clearly distressed.
So my question is, would that fall under the technical definition of rape? Or would it not because it was me performing the act on him?
I'm sure there will be people commenting that I didn't have to do it all but really you don't know until you're in that situation, I could see no way out and he was manipulative to the extreme.
Clearly there's nothing I can do about it now, but he's such a model person in every other aspect of life. Highly intelligent, well achieving junior doctor, looks after his mum in hard times, generous, funny etc. I'd love to just take him down a few pegs and tell him he's no better than any other piece of shit manipulative exploitative man out there.
Finally, technicalities aside, how do I get over this? I have a great job, recently engaged and have a baby on the way with an absolutely wonderful man. I couldn't be happier yet this stupid thing that happened 6 years ago still crops up every now and then and keeps me up at night.