To make DH wear a pink dress to football match

[annthesurveyor]

First time I've posted a thread here, please be nice

I hate football with a passion. I have been to a football match (Everton v West Ham) with an ex BF and something momentous was meant to have happened during the game, but it went right over my head and I sat for 2 hours freezing cold and bored rigid. Me and the BF split up shortly after. I would rather have root canal work done than go to another football match.

My DH knows this and is trying to get me to go along to a QPR game. Finding babysitters aside, I'd much rather he went with his mates so I can girl-out for an evening with smelly bath salts, a soppy film, junk TV etc.

So, I've insisted that if he wants me to go to a football match with him, he's got to wear a pink dress. He has great legs and pink would really suit him, I've even offered to make the dress myself. I won't be seen dead at a football match - he won't be seen dead in a pink dress.

He thinks this is totally unreasonable, and I think the deal is more than reasonable. What do you think?

I'm with you on this one. If you genuinely hate football why is he trying to force you to go?
Insist that withthe pink dress he also has to have his legs, chest, underarms & back waxed too.
It's good to have separate hobbies & interests

YABU - but in exact proportion to his unreasonableness. So overall YANBU.

I like your attitude!

essential to have different hobbies

I have to say I think that the deal is unreasonable

In that you forgot to insist on sequins and a matching feather boa

If you dont want to go to a football match then I see no reason why you should go. Why does he want you to go so badly?

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I am going to be really po-faced here and say that I don't like making the wearing of women's clothing into humiliation and comedy. I think it shows a really negative feeling about women and femininity - that to dress like a women means you are weak and foolish.

Sorry. Just one of my bug bears.

Oh, you know you are. Dh is football mad, and I'm not really that bothered, but I've been to a game with him, and it was fun because I just got in the spirit of things.

If you don't want to go, just say so. Would you really feel better about going if you managed to humiliate your husband at the same time?

Well Franny there are circumstances where it is perfectly reasonable. I have had many a nice night out being entertained by some fabulous men in frocks.

However I am guessing that a QPR game would be stretching the circumstances where this sort of thing is going to be acceptable.

yes but you know MP this just never sits right with me

"a man wearing a frilly skirt oh how absolutely hilarious"

I don't like it

I think youre being silly tbh, and I certainly dont think saying he would have to wear a pink dress is reasonable, maybe tell him he has to go along with you to something he would rather not do (like ballet or grease the muscial) would be a better idea.
Take along a book and an mp3 player if you hate footy that much, I doubt he'd want you to go again if you were obviously that bored.

Iklboo - I don't know, I think the hairy legs adds to the overall effect, as well as 3 days worth of beard! He's also 6'2" and big build so you can imagine the look.

Tarantula - I was going to get my 11 yo DSD to help out with the finishing touches like sequins and girlie finishes, in the way that everything pink and glittery is attractive to 11 yo girls!

I forgot to mention that I offered to wear an identical dress to the one he'd wear so he wouldn't stand out so much. That sent him into even more of a grump, I still can't work out why.

And I also forgot to say he hasn't asked me to go again once since I set the deal on Saturday.

I do see your points F&Z.

Although TBH a woman in a pink frilly skirt would be almost as ridiculous.

A man in a nice pencil skirt of course - much better.

(Am reminded of the shop in London which stocks female clothes for men, that won't do anything slutty: "We don't do hooker here, dear, just ladies.")

i love football but if its not your bag, its not..
its nice he wants to share but he must get the message with your ultimatum..

..tis a bit pc and po-faced franny, isnt this just fun?..
for the record i adore mens clothing, the cut, simplicity,classic lines non out of fashionness about it..have worn mens clothing since teenager as my dads comfy punky jumpers will contest to and mans crombie was just the dogs bollocks of a coat..
i come fromm land of skirt wearing men..

Yes, of course YABU - and so is he . Wouldn't he have much more fun with fellow minded mates? I once went to a Tottenham/Man Utd match at Old Trafford with an exb - in the many years that have intervened, men have fallen at my feet in envy - "you saw Tottenham win at Old Trafford? Wow!" Sadly, I couldn't share the feeling of awe and actually found it quite threatening. And they all jumped up every time something vaguely interesting happened, & being only 5 foot 2 and a half (very important, that half!) I couldn't see a thing.

Once went to see Cardiff City at home with dp - even HE found it threatening, and they're his home team .

Nope, I wouldn't go again, even if DP wore a ball gown...

yes I said I knew it was po-faced, still I don't find it funny, I think it is childish, and I find it offensive in the same way I find adults sneering and mocking homosexuals offensive

HOWEVER

I don't see why the OP should have to consider going to a footy game if she hates it

why would he want you to go if he knows you don't like it? I don't understand

Maybe he thinks she just had one bad experience and it might be different now?

why does he want you to go? tell him no

end of

bizarre

Actually, thinking of men in 'frocks' - I do love Celts in Kilts.

yes maybe sue

dp did mention it once to me but he knows damn well I would sit there scowling and reading a book so he gave up

have you got children together? if he waits a few years he can take them

Come to think of it, I love Celts in Anything !

Franny - that's why I issued the ultimatum, as he kept asking. I allow football in the house, I just go and knit quietly in another room or have a soak/exfoliate/meditate in the bath when it's on. At a stadium you can't do that, you just have to sit there and bear it.

I once went drag racing with my exh - we were on honeymoon at the time ....

Just to show that I think you should try anyting - once - but if you REALLY don't like it, he'll know. I was never asked to go drag racig again.

PS I was VERY disappointed to find that drag racing did NOT involve men running in frocks .

yes ann it is utterly unreasonable of him and you shouldn't go

just find a more pc punishment for me, there's a love