Would you leave this relationship?

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Been with oh for 10 years we have a dd together one dd together.
We were very much in love and very close for 7 years of the relationship, after I had Dd mil turned into some jealous narrasist, I had seen this side to her with his brothers child's mother but mil had played the victim and lead us all to think that ex sil was awful to her yet I've had that treatment and I can assure anyone that mil can be really nasty, anyway she come between me and partner quite badly and I feel he never had my back.
I took the abuse from her time and time again for about a year or two then said enoughs enough and starting to retaliate and me and partner fell out a lot over her, his family have never bothered with us or our dd and I stopped going to family events as I felt uncomfortable! I would get chest pains and migraines with the stress and still welcomed her every week till I was told by the doctors to avoid the stress so I started to go out when she came weekly to see dd! One day I put my big girl pants on had her over and we talked and told her how it was wrong and affecting me.
Partner said that me not bothering with his family was making him unhappy so I made the effort Invited them all over ( pre covid ) and they all made excuses and said they were busy! Dd not seen them for over a year despite being invited but I'm told it's me who doesn't bother despite inviting them over!
Partner is now saying no to another baby until things are good again- I've made the effort and don't feel I can do anymore, he's been saying for 2 years that we can try for a baby just not yet until things are good again and he is also saying the same about marriage that we will but not yet! I've begged this man to let us have another baby before my time runs out, but he keeps saying when things are better !!
He's strung me along for 2 years over a baby and the same about marriage he told me he wanted to propose but can't until things are good again!!
We also agreed to move to a different area to be near my family and have buyers we've had buyers for 7 months and he's done nothing to get us moved and now wants to tell the buyers that April is too soon for us to find somewhere and their mortgage offer runs out by then etc ! He owns more of the house than I do! Put it this way my share is about 6000 his is about 206,000 so not really my place to demand a move, I have asked him to buy me out so I'm not tied to it but he says he has no way of doing that!
Would you leave this relationship? It seems I'm being strung along

You're definitely being strung along! If he wanted another baby or marriage he'd have done something about it.

Has he explained why he's being so unfair to you over his family treating you badly?

He says it's in the past and I should get over it! Yes I should get over it but also what his mum did was really awful and when I had only just given birth it wasn't fair ! He said he had words with his mum and that but she was still allowed over weekly and he would never hear the comments !
I said if he really wanted more kids and marriage we would have it but he still says things are getting better but they need to be better before we try for a baby!
I think it's hit a point today when dd asked me when was I going to have a baby in my tummy ( both her aunties have had a baby in the past 5 weeks so she is now more understanding of it )

I don't think he sees an issue with how they are ! He just tells me I need to stop going back to the past, yet I've made a huge effort and they all decline being involved in dd so not sure what more he wants me to do! I'm civil to his mum when we see her and when his step dad was in hospital I made huge effort to send cards and stuff into him etc

I’d walk away and go back to your family.
Life is too short.

I’m really sorry this is happening to you OP. I truly believe when a man wants something he will take action. If he loved you he would stand up to his mother more. He is clearly stringing you along. Don’t beg for his love. Go live your own life.

Things haven't been good between us but only because of his family, I was willing to stay and work it out but he is stopping me having a baby and marriage, I'm worried I won't be able to get pregnant again as I'm middle 30's and it took 3 years of trying to conceive dd I had to nag him for 3 years before that to agree to try for her xx

I've and I had family members delete or block me off social media, I think his mum has talked bad about me as she did with his brothers ex, his uncle had no reason to delete me and when I asked why he deleted me if I had offended him his reply was " I didn't think you liked my posts as mainly about farm stuff " - he didn't delete any of the other girlfriends!!
Mil used to slag his brothers ex off to me saying all sorts about her so I think she's probably done the same with me but partner says she wouldn't have Nd that they're stupid for deleting me x

So he won't have another baby or get married until things are better with his family?

Fuck him off. If things do get better it will be another excuse after that.

Relationships with his family have nothing to do with your family - you, him and your children.

I really think another baby should be way at the back of your mind.

And yes, the relationship is over. I'm sorry

Do you really want to be tied to this man by marriage?

He has no consideration for your feelings.
He doesn’t care about how you feel about another baby or marriage or the situation with his mum. He’s taking the oath of least resistance.

Why are you still there? What are you getting out of this?

I think your right about him not caring about what I want, I come from a big family and he knew i wanted more than one child, I've stayed because like an idiot I believed that if I tried we would be able to have more children etc

For the poster saying about putting a baby to the back of my mind it's not that easy, it's made me really depressed being toyed with over something that I really want

I’m view of the current/recent relationship problems, he’s right in saying that you shouldn’t have a baby now. However, if you have been wanting another baby and he has been promising another baby for longer than the relationship problems, then he is BU. Same as far as marriage goes - Now is not the time. Getting married and/or having a baby will not cure the relationship problems.

However, if you resolve the relationship problems then it would be reasonable to have another baby/get married, but if he’s already kept you dangling for a couple of years, you probably can’t trust him to stick to his promises.

I see what your saying as in work in the relationship first, I've tried everything and he has an excuse everytime and it's only me trying, I once asked him to take an evening off football so we could have a film night nice food etc and he decided it was better to go to football, not sure what else he wants from me to be honest xx

OP,

You want to bring another baby into a really toxic dead relationship.

You are being strung along.

I appreciate this is painful but you nagged for 3 years for your daughter.
Have some self respect.

Your relationship is over.

You need to move on.
Enjoy your daughter that came from this awful relationship and move back to your family.

He doesn't want another child or to marry you.

I think he is telling you it's over.

Don't waste any more time with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

You are still young.

Why are you throwing your own life in the bin like this? Why? It's such a waste.

Sorry OP but his actions are showing you he has checked out of this relationship and sees no long term future in it. Walk away before you waste anymore of your life on him and his toxic family. Start the new year with plans for a new life for you and your DD. Good luck x

You need your head read even thinking about a baby in these circumstances!
On that one respect - he is right.
Your relationship has failed, so don’t have another child.