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Partner lies A LOT

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justherefortheadvice · 30/12/2020 21:39

Well, I'm not really one for talking about my feelings to anyone, let alone the internet. But I guess this is my final straw.
I have been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now (we are in a same sex loving relationship so please be nice) and I guess you could say lesbian relationships can be slightly toxic at the best of times.
She lies, a lot. She lies about her past, and makes me paranoid about her exes. In the beginning she told me multiple stories, then I catch her out on them. She tells me things about her past that aren't even true? Because she feels "embarrassed" she hasn't done as much stuff as me, yet was engaged before me? I've found a lot of these make believe stories are sexual.
She has recently also been lying about other things too. I have trust in her as much to say I don't think she could cheat on me, but the trust in definitely in the bin.
I am getting more and more frustrated with the relationship and getting more anxious to leave it. I keep threatening to walk out as I really have had enough of the lies, but can never go through with it as I am so deeply in love with her.
I suppose I'm asking for advice on whether to stay in a relationship where I get, for the most part, lies? Or whether or not I should leave? Am I being unreasonable if it's things about the past? Or do I have a leg to stand on?
Any advice would be super welcomed and I would be grateful!
Thanks.

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LopsidedWombat · 31/12/2020 00:43

Have you talked to her about the lies? As in, asked her why she does it and could she consider getting help to stop? Either way, in your position I would be thinking do I even know this person, what is true, what isn't and what if the lies grow bigger. She's not ready to be in a relationship and you sound really fed up with it all, understandably. I'd want to say "I love you, come back to me when you have received some help for your compulsive lying and we can go from there".

MoreLikeThis · 31/12/2020 00:52

Do you want kids in the future? I don’t think it’s fair on kids to bring them into relationships that have such big problems.

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