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If you don't get what you want for Christmas do you just buy yourself it after anyway?

73 replies

Forgetaboutme · 30/12/2020 17:30

I'm just being nosy and wondering what people do. If there was something you really wanted for Christmas but never got would you just go out and buy it yourself? Or do you just accept you didn't get it and move on?

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DimidDavilby · 30/12/2020 18:03

Yes because it's something I need. And dropped lots of hints about Hmm and put off buying Confused

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 30/12/2020 18:04

@WutheredOut

I didn’t get what I wanted for Xmas....although after I got over being disappointed I realised I didn’t actually know what I wanted....so no I won’t be going shopping 😂
This is me all over, every single year 🤣 Although I did ask for specific items and I got them (another that ordered their presents from dh, although he got the freebee watch that came with my new phone, every little saving helps)
OublietteBravo · 30/12/2020 18:04

Yes. I’m currently hunting for wine glasses which I didn’t get for Christmas despite dropping lots of hints to DH.

Pugliandreamer · 30/12/2020 18:06

Yes a few bits. I always send a list to my family - usually bits for the house. I dont expect everything, it's just a list to pick from so the actual gift is a surprise. I didn't get a doormat I wanted this year so I've bought that. Might get a couple of lamp shades soon...

bluebellation · 30/12/2020 18:06

After many years of expensive mistakes I now give DH a 'wishlist' of anything I specifically want. Obviously I don't get everything on it and he always goes off-list as well, but it does mean I get most things I want. Also, my birthday's in November, so anything I don't get then, I can highlight for Christmas.

BlueThistles · 30/12/2020 18:06

Yes... I'm very good to me ☺️

Godimabitch · 30/12/2020 18:07

Depends what and if I could afford it. I asked DH for some maternity jeans and shirt, I bought them in the sale when he didn't.

Barmyfarmy · 30/12/2020 18:08

Yes, though my birthday is in January so if anything was missed I ask for it then/ people already have plans to give me it for bday instead of christmas. This year I asked for but didn't receive some new winter gloves and a wax jacket. I've bought myself the gloves and DH is getting me the wax jacket as an early bday present (I live on a farm so it's needed, I'm not being a brat!)

DH does the same, he can never think of what he wants for Christmas but always gets ideas after/ the day before... I open my Amazon app and let him at it Grin

Frazzlefrazle · 30/12/2020 18:08

Yes, not because I'm ungrateful for the pressies I did get (I loved them) it's just that I held off in December buying myself things just incase someone had got them for me so I have ordered some earrings and a book.

Squirrelblanket · 30/12/2020 18:09

Yes definitely.

LorneSausage · 30/12/2020 18:19

My brother and I used to ask each other what we wanted for Christmas. Now we just buy ourselves something as our present from each other, usually in the post-Christmas sales! Sounds silly but it makes it feel like I'm not really buying it for myself!

GreySkyClouds · 30/12/2020 18:20

Yes. Came from a poor family so I never really got anything I wanted, so started treating myself when I started working.

2020isalmosthindsight · 30/12/2020 18:26

Absolutely.

Smeds · 30/12/2020 18:29

Oh I would if I had the money. I never get cash at Christmas, not since my lovely Nan passed away. DH doesn't accept hints or wishlists and he usually buys me lovely presents. They were a bit random this year though and I wish he had bought the £10 thing I'd spotted.

6demandingchildren · 30/12/2020 18:35

This year was amazing, DH goes Christmas shopping for me on Christmas Eve and he goes with our older children or his friends, this year her just went through my Amazon wish list and I got almost everything, the things I didn't get I have been able to buy with my Christmas money.
I got no tat at all.
I'm more than happy.

gavisconismyfriend · 30/12/2020 18:35

I’ve decided to do this moving forward. There are some things I bought this year as I needed/wanted them that I now realise I could have bought and kept for Christmas when I’d then have got some nice things that would have pleased me a lot! So not additional things, just delayed gratification for things I would have bought anyway. It will work fine as long as I don’t try and apply it to anything edible - I’d crack and eat it long before Christmas....

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Forgetaboutme · 30/12/2020 18:48

I like surprises but there was one thing I reallllly wanted this year. It was a body scrub.....it was dearer than I would ever spend on myself. My dh kept asking if there was anything I wanted and everytime I said I would love this scrub. He took note of the name umpteen times. Anyway, I did get a scrub for Christmas but it was a different one he had chosen off Amazon with a different smell he thought I would like (but unfortunately I don't) Actually dearer than the one I wanted. Obviously I didn't tell him but now I feel kind of bad because I'm so, so tempted to treat myself to the one I wanted as a one off indulgence. I guess I was just so sure I was getting it I practically thought I already had it.

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MrsDiplo · 30/12/2020 18:51

Yes. I didnt get the item I wanted so didnt say a word and ordered it online boxing day...£50 cheaper than it was the week before. No harm done and saved some money

EveningOverRooftops · 30/12/2020 19:10

Always buy my own presents Xmas eve -Boxing Day I order and they arrive in the week after. This year it was non wired bras, new boots, art supplies and some wax melt thingies.

I don’t have anyone to buy me gifts (aside from the token bits) so it’s become a bit of a sad routine.

PegasusReturns · 30/12/2020 19:51

I get one extreme or the other with DH: either a big ticket item with piles of lovely bits and pieces or some poorly thought out rush job. This applies to all gift giving occasions.

I’ve had diamond earrings, Rolex watches, tech and much coveted outfits and I’ve also had biographies of people I have no interest in and household items.

If it’s a latter scenario then I fill in the gaps.

Scarlettpixie · 30/12/2020 20:00

I bought myself some beautiful flowers on Christmas eve. There is noone else to buy them and they have made me happy so why not 😊

TwnklTwnklLittleStarfighter · 30/12/2020 20:03

Yes absolutely. I consider it payment for sorting out the gifts for the 11 people I buy for Grin

sbhydrogen · 30/12/2020 20:05

I ask for things I need for Christmas, and then buy anything I want myself.

StoneofDestiny · 30/12/2020 20:32

I don’t tend to ask for certain things as I like the surprise. If there was something I really wanted I would just buy it myself

This, exactly

Tier10 · 30/12/2020 20:35

Treat yourself to the body scrub you really want OP.

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