Turn down a job that pays 30% more?

[givemegin2021]

I am a mum of two young DCs, 2.5yo and 6m. Was approached recently by a competitor company for a job that would pay 30% more but hours will be more demanding.

Currently at a job that pays enough that allows us to live comfortably, flexible hours and I like my colleagues. My manager is putting me up for promotion which will have around 15% pay rise if I get it (chance is 50/50 if I get promotion).

My head says take the new job while my heart wants to stay in the comfort zone. What would you do?

Switch now. Full time childcare is easier to find and manafe with pre school. Later there are more demands school hols and older kids demand more emotional support. A 2.5 year old doesnt have friendship problems...a tween might.
.but by then you in a position to ask fir and get flexibility with new job.
Let your dp or dh pick up more domestic and kid work if not already doing so. Or outsource more.

What are your childcare arrangements? Generally when younger childcare is much easier to outsource.

What age do others consider children "young" till? latter half of primary? Genuine question as also a working mum

I would negotiate with both companies. Tell your boss you have this offer, he/she will likely offer you the promotion but ask them to match the salary. Also tell the other company that you are potentially interested but set out what flexibility you want. Then see what happens and which offer you prefer.

30% pay rise won't mean 30% more in your pocket, I suggest waiting until your kids are in more of a routine and then switching.

Yes, I assume that the OPhas heard about tax, being currently employed!

Opportunity doesn’t knock every day. The OP should take this one.

With small children, I prioritised tone and flexibility. They are 9 and 12 now, I’ve never regretted that decision.

As pp said - “normally” there’s a lot of parent engagement once dc start school - parents assemblies, school plays, off site sports events, open mornings, concerts, nativities, parents evenings (ours start at 3.30 pm), harvest festival, Christmas fairs, Spring fair, summer gala, sports day...IME these largely take place in school hours. It’s been marvellous to have the flexibility to attend a lot of it.

Calculate how much better off you would be. Use calculators online.
With young kids, as an Lp, flexible bosses are priceless. They allow you to keep the balls in the air. Rigid bosses don't. Check their policies or get bulletproof paid childcare for when problems arise as they often do.
Good luck whatever, we'll done on being headhunted x

If you have a job you like and are happy there then stay. Money isn't everything and you won't get the time back with your family if the new job is more demanding and you might regret that in years to come (speaking from experience, my children are 15 & 20 now). Talk it through with your husband and do what's best for all of you.

How long have you been at your present employer and what are pension provisions? Worth considering, if you move job and things go Pete Tong for the company you would be first to be made redundant.

Anybody who wants to understand the gender pay gap should read this thread!

@givemegin2021
do you have job satisfaction?
If yes, I wouldn’t apply for another job.
If no, go for it.

Money is not everything in your situation 💐

Go with your heart, OP. where do you feel you'll genuinely be happier? that's your answer. Speaking from experience since I took a job with a parish that left me utterly miserable. Luckily I was able to get my old job back but it was definitely a lesson learned

Payrise, not parish

@givemegin2021 have you decided yet? ☺️

Tell your current boss, you’ll get the 15%