Would you share medical information with Ex-PILs?

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I posted this over on the corona topic but got no response so reposting here.

Background: Split with now ExH in 2017 due to his control and violence. He moved in with his parents, then moved out and moved 2 hours away. He has overnight contact with DD (aged 6) at his parents house EOW as DD can’t travel to him (medical reasons). She’s obviously only had daytime contact with him EO Saturday since the restrictions came in. Ex-FIL in immune-suppressed due to his own medical condition, therefore ECV.

The news of the vaccine this morning has prompted ExH to ask me to have the vaccine and to let him know when I have it.

He says this is the best way to protect Ex-FIL from Covid and he’d feel more comfortable having DD if he knew I had it. He also showed me texts from Ex-PILs asking him to ask me if I’ll have it and let them know when I have.

I’m in two minds. They obviously know that DD has had all her vaccines as I keep ExH up-to-date with her medical stuff, and clearly want to protect both DD and Ex-FIL.

But the other part of me thinks it’s none of their business, while going through court I was very clear with cafcass that they were to hide any of my medical information from ExH and his solicitor unless it directly affected my ability to look after DD (my medical issues don’t and never have). ExH initially wanted full residency so that’s why I did it. I’m worried he’ll use me getting/not getting the vaccine (I’m undecided whether I’ll have it yet and I won’t be top priority to get it so I’ve got time to think about it) against me.

So WWYD?

I'd say something non-commital like "I'll let you know as soon as I'm called up."

No wonder he is your ex - he seems very dim if he thinks covid vaccinations are available on demand

And OP hasn't decided whether to have it at all yet, so she's hardly the brightest star in the sky either, is she?

Does he think you can just rock up at the GPs and ask for it?

In any case, they will be vaccinated before you so it makes no difference.

You won't be offered it, not for months and months. FIL will be offered it in the next couple of months and he should accept it.
There is no need for any conversation.

As your daughter won't be having it as it is not licensed for children surely your vaccination status is irrelevant. She could transmit it to PIL regardless of whether you have been vaccinated or not. He's either hard of thinking or trying to use this as another way to try to have control over you.

YANBU about thinking twice about this, and nobody has the right to know your health information. Surely, given thair age, your PILs are going to get the vaccine way before you do? It sounds as though your ex is just panicking, and not yet fully aware of everything, as none of us are. If you do not respond, this will probably blow over without you having to do or say anything.

There is wall to wall information about the vaccine everywhere, on all forms of msm. Anyine who doesn't know about it must be living in a cave.

Ex-PILs are late 40s so only Ex-FIL will be eligible

@endofthelinefinally

There is wall to wall information about the vaccine everywhere, on all forms of msm. Anyine who doesn't know about it must be living in a cave.

I know about the vaccine but haven’t read enough none media information about it yet, once I’m offered I’ll likely read up on it and make my choice then, I think it’s too soon to make a decision considering I’m unlikely to be offered it at all in 2021

OP, of course you can choose when to inform yourself. But the information is all available now. Your question on here is based on neither you, your ex and ex PIL not knowing the correct information.