For over a year now have been having issues with best friend, friendship goes back 16 years (since we were 10) so basically family, we used to be inseparable.
She began a relationship 2 years ago and every time we have met has used him for excuses - can’t stay late, need to provide moral support to him from first day of work etc etc. She was also unwell herself and stopped seeing friends for that reason. We live far away so have been asking her for zooms/chats on the phone etc etc and always says yes but then cancels as she doesn’t feel up to it. The last two times we have met in the last year have always been at my instigation. She still sees his family and lives with him.
She cancelled a chat we were meant to have this week (phone) and when I replied a bit tersely, she asked if things were tense and that she still misses me and thinks about me a lot. Really nice but how can we actually stay friends if we never meet and are never in contact?! She does text occasionally but it’s very surface level. Also we were both on furlough, neither have children and no other commitments - so if we did have time, it would be now, we are both time rich to be honest.
How do I reply? What do I do? I am really hurt and upset by the lack of effort.