Anyone who's experienced a relationship coming to an end who has children and choose to end it. I could do with some experiences.
I have two children 3 and 6.5.
Been in a dead relationship for 2 years with their dad. We have lost everything we were. We've tried. We can't naturally fall back into it.
We now don't sit together. We don't have sex. We don't sleep together. We don't kiss. We take the kids out seperate. We just take it in turns to care for the kids. There are no arguments. But I'm aware my kids are watching us not being in love. Not seeing us sharing a bed. Not seeing us sat together enjoying eachothers company.
I've started the ball rolling to call it quits. We've had the talk. But unfortunately he hasn't accepted it. He's grabbed my bum yesterday. Tried to kiss me boxing day. I had to pull away and remind him I wasn't in that place anymore.
Then it gets complicated. Mortgage. 12 years in. Mine for 12. His for 8. But I've been a sahm for 5 years. So I don't earn. Plan is to work in just under two years when youngest goes to school. So I have no money and no options.
I'm also not a cruel person. I don't want to make things hard. I feel he's paid alot into our home etc. It's also my children home.
Finally I'm terrified of everyone's opinions. Friends. Family etc. They don't know how unhappy I am. It's making me unwell. I feel down alot. I feel stressed. Lonely. Anxious. I don't enjoy weekends anymore. But there's no clear way to explain it to them. Nobodies cheated or anything. It's just not working.
Any experiences.
We are not Married.
We have just grown apart
Thanks.