How to get over a chronic bad mood?

[Sandalison]

This bad mood has been brewing for a few months really. Probably not helped by covid and all the isolation. I feel thoroughly fed up and my attitude stinks. I just want to tell everybody to fuck right off. If they’re miserable they can fuck off I don’t want to hear about it, and if they’re happy they can double fuck off because it makes me feel worse by comparison. People are just giving me the rage no matter how nice they are.

I don’t actually say any of this, I am smiley and pleasent, but it is fizzling inside me and instead I find I am withdrawing myself from people because everyone just pisses me off. This isn’t who I am normally! Normally I am a good laugh and kind and I will go out of my way for people. How can I overcome this bad mood/attitude?

(I don’t think I am depressed, but I am definitely fed up. I feel like a tired toddler who needs to go to bed. But I am sleeping really well...)

Christ knows.
If you find out,tell me.

Hmm sounds like more than a bad mood, more like stress or anxiety. I felt like this yesterday and I’m afraid I had a few drinks and felt much better, but on reflection some vigorous exercise might have worked just as well.

When I have felt like this it has been because I am failing to address something BIG. I end up focusing on all the little things, getting angry because I cannot control them, being furious because someone ate the special "XYZ" or because something shrank in the wash......

I get really down and low but am steadfastly refusing to deal with the elephant in the room which might be toxic relationship with family member/hated job/relationship over/crippling debt.

Not sure f this is useful to you OP but I hope you feel better soon

Could it be testosterone out of whack? Pre-menopause or menopause?

On a day to day basis, try pinterest. I started a positivity page and honestly it has saved several days. Starting the day reading that instead of arguments on Facebook or more bad news is much better.

I felt like this two months ago and it culminated in a massive meltdown and five weeks off work with stress. I needed to withdraw from everyone and didn't speak to anyone but my immediate family. GP prescribed 'self-care' which made me roll my eyes but actually a few weeks of good sleep, relaxing, watching nice TV and having the energy to cook good food and go nice walks really helped. I also started using a SAD lamp and taking a multivitamin + extra vitamin D. Went back to work a few weeks ago and feel amazing now.

Cupptcakey has it. I’ve get like this since Christmas and I hate it. Dh is really poorly atm and I find myself just FURIOUS all the time. I’m under huge stress, tired and tbh our relationship isn’t great. Everything has just for a bit much and because I can’t actually DO anything about it, it’s translated into a proper shitter of a bad mood

You have just described exactly how I feel. I am even pissed off with myself. I'm getting used to this feeling of constant irritation with everything and everyone and prefer to be on my own. Which I can't be - so that annoys me more!!

Ugh me too! For me it's definitely like cuppycakey said, there's bigger issues that I'm steadfastly ignoring... it's not quite the same thing, but when I had counselling for PTSD, the counsellor said I should try feeling whatever it was instead of trying to resist it. I find that really helpful. There's an exercise called 'dropping the anchor' that you can try. (Free to download an audio file for it )
You're definitely not the only one, I think we're all pretty miserable right now

Thanks so much for all the thoughtful replies. It could be stress, there is a lot of work I need to get done but I was determined to relax and enjoy annual leave over Christmas and new year. I have been steadfastly ignoring it but maybe this is what’s nagging at me.

Thanks @SamVimesFavouriteDragon I will look for draop the anchor...

I realise this might be the last thing you will want to do. And that you may even be irritated with me for suggesting it. But the thing that has fixed this for me is a regular pattern of exercise.