To resent DM for this?

[lamadragon]

I've name changed as this will be outing!

This is a bit of a rant and I'm fully prepared to be told I'm being utterly unreasonable...
DM has recently developed a habit of always having one up on whatever I say e.g I call her and say I'm feeling really frustrated and upset today due to x, she will cut in and go oh it can't be any worse than this and launches into a story about her and her issue. It is never 'oh no what's happened' or anything like that. Today I opened up a conversation with 'I watched a really good film today' and before I could even finish she said it's not as good as the one I watched and launched into the whole plot of a different film. Never came back to me..
DM is also annoying me with her work. She constantly complains that she is working late etc however she does it to herself e.g she is supposed to finish at 12pm and will stay on till 5 because it was busy. She is not asked to do this at all! This frustrates me as in the evening she will call me to complain about it and pre covid times would often cancel plans at the last min because she was staying late.
She is also moving soon about 4.5 hours away from us. This has in itself upset me as I have a very young DS who she now won't see unless we go up to them. She stated that she was doing it to make sure we get a better quality of life as the houses are cheaper... however the area she has chosen is about 20 mins away from close family friends who moved there about 2 years ago who she 'misses terribly'. I feel that she is moving for them and doesn't seem to care that she is leaving her family behind. Prior to this she also stated that I should go for a new job as she would take our little one and become our childcare. I went for this job and was successful. 4 weeks after I started she announced the move and went oh obviously I wont be able to help now.
I'm hurt, angry and upset with her. AIBU?

No real advice as I have been nc with dm for years... But be sure to remember the road goes both ways op. It def should be not be you travelling every time.

Nope you're note unreasonable. I would be upset at this too and I feel the same about things my mum does.

Poor you. I feel for you. It's not nice

I realise this is just a rant just feel so frustrated and quite frankly unloved!
@Santaisironingwrappingpaper she's said we can only come to her as they will have a spare decent sized bedroom and we don't...

Tbh I would just back right off. Dont tell her stuff. Don't organise to see her.

See how long it takes for her to be interested.

I do this every now and then. I crave my parents attention but I don't get it.

@Horehound this is the conclusion I'm coming too. I've already cut back the amount of times I speak to her and will stay strong a cut back further

Suggest you will sleep on an airbed and she can have your room.
Call her bluff...
*she won't come so you won't have to...
She sounds awful op... It sucks when our dps aren't who we want them to be...
Ime.

Ugh I know exactly what you mean about the one-upmanship. I tried to tell my mum about my poor friend who had a very rough time caring for her dad until he died. She just started talking over the top of me about all the people she knows that have died. Sorry, no advice but wanted to sympathise.

Ah. If you've been to Tenerife, she's been to Elevenerife.
You think her moving away is a problem? No, it's a blessing.
Get proper child care sorted and wait and see when she realises the roads run in both directions. She could get an air BnB or stay in a cheap place so you don't have to make all the effort.

She’s unreliable and indifferent.

Let her do and don’t rely on her for anything. Next time she launches into her stories, interrupt her and say ‘can I finish what I was saying’. Stop letting her get away with it. If she keeps interrupting, tell her you have to do and say bye.