In laws and Christmas presents

[Ems11]

To think some children are treated differently than others in my husbands family. The in-laws have said we do KrisKindle for gifts for the children. So each family only have to gift one child. Turns out that’s not what’s been happening. All the sisters buy for all the sisters children (my husband is a brother). So my children get one gift and any child of a sister gets a gift from everyone. There are 4 sisters. This is all kept a very badly kept secret. Obviously as the children have gotten older they discuss gifts amongst each other.
I’m furious why are my children treated differently? It’s not the fact of the gift that is bothering me the children get plenty. It’s the secrecy around it and the pretence that there is a Kris Kindle when there really isn’t.

Should I say anything?

I think it's important before deciding AYBU for you to tell us @Ems11 are you buying presents for all your neices and nephews? if you are and you're children are only getting from one cousin's family, then YANBU.
I'd call the whole shower off if I were you.

niece your children
Tired Venus.

Well next year just say you'd like to abandon the Kris Kringle and get everyone's dc something. Then they'll have to reciprocate.

I assumed it was something to do with buying kindle books .

I get why this really hurts OP, it's not about the gifts per se, it's about the unequal treatment.

It's spelled Kris Kindle because it comes from Christ child (kind is child in German).
Americans also spell it Kris Kringle.

@Ems11 How did you find out and do they know you know? I would get your DH to outright ask this head sister why his children are left out.

Does your husband make any effort with his sisters or their children through the rest of the year? Because if he can't be arsed, neither will they.
Anyway, why do you even want a load more to buy for?

sounds weird, but in your position I'd be happier to spend my money buying gifts for my children that I think they'd appreciate and I am happy for them to have, rather than spend a shedload on gifts for random nieces and nephews.

It's probably a case of sisters being closer to each other than to your Dh and hence seeing each other kids more often .. we do KK similarly but I am way closer to one family as they live nearby and I see and mind them all the time so I always do a sneaky additional pressie for my nephew in that family as well as my god daughter.. probably not strictly fair but we don't say anything , it's crap you know about it though..