What is my excuse? Why am I such a mess?

[Sillymillymandy]

Why am I still so overweight after having my last baby 6 years ago? I see women with young children who look amazing and have time to take care of themselves.

Why don't I have any time to do my makeup, take care of myself? I see women with babies who are perfectly groomed.

Why is my house such a mess? Why can't I keep on top of it? What is my excuse?

Why aren't I working full time now my children are older? Why am I working a part time minimum wage job when I am capable of so much more? What is my excuse?

You tell us?

Why do you think it happens?

Turn this on its head and be kinder to yourself OP.
You have noticed a few things you would like to do so make time for them.
I wake up before the DC to shower, have breakfast & get ready.
On your day(s) off, go for a run or do a workout & make this your house cleaning day so the days with DC can be enjoyed without worrying about housework.
Think about what your career aspirations are. Whilst you’re working part time, are there any courses you could do to advance your career or to enable you to get into a field you would like to be in?

Be kinder to yourself.

What do you do with your time? Is it fulfilling?

Do you have a supportive partner who does his share of housework and childcare?

You tell us. More context is needed. When you understand the why, you can figure out some solutions as it sounds like you want change