Get well soon card from work! Or lack of AIBU?

[SweetPheonix]

Long story short I work my ass of in the NHS and following a year and a half of ill health (worked though) I have finally had an operation to fix the problems.

I will be having a 12 week recovery and then back to working in my “team” of which I thought I was a part of for the last 6 years.

I haven’t received a get well soon card even though I did receive a WhatsApp message to contribute to a managers big birthday and have contributed to other members of staffs collections and get well soon cards ( including ones this year) etc even when the team only seems to do them for certain people which is wrong.

So I’m feeling hurt and tbh feel like refusing to swap shifts, contribute to anything extra and generally just turn up, do my job as described and just go home at the end of the day. I put in so much to the department in the past :(

I’m feeling sad about it but the question is AIBU to just think of the patients, do my job and screw the team and their needs when I go back? Feels petty with everything going on at the moment but I always think of the team. 9 weeks till I go back 🤷🏼‍♀️

Wise words once said to me : work friends are not real friends. So try not to take it so personally, I know it's hard but maybe they just didn't think about it.

I once left a job after four years, and I didn't get a card, even though someone else left a month before and got a card and a pressie, and he had been there less than a year. You just have to try and not care.

It is not nice to feel overlooked so yanbu.
I imagine everyone thought someone else would do it. Get well soon.

That's shit. I'd leave the group for the time being.

YANBU. I’m part of a small team, attached to a larger team. Our small team of 4 is expected to contribute to leaving/marriage/baby gifts but they do not contribute to things for our small team.

I’ve stopped contributing to the big team collections. I do like some of them so just get something from myself like chocolates and a card.

Team/ group collections like this always lead to drama when someone is accidentally (or deliberately) left out.

I hate them and wish they'd be banned! I work in a huge team and sometimes I'm expected to out on for people I don't know or have never spoken to. No thank you.

Did any of your work friends message you personally OP? I hope they did. I'm not surprised you feel rubbish.

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Thank you everyone, I feel so much better. I’ve had a message from one person on maternity and a person who has left now. They didn’t do a collection for her 50th this year but did one a month before for someone’s 30 years of service. It seems like you need to be in the circle if you know what I mean.

I think you are all right, it’s best to keep out of it all and just keep on going.

🙏

YANBU.
I was once off for 12 weeks because my wrist was broken by one of our clients. No get well soon card. During that time I got married, there was no card or collection of any sort even though I saw that my other direct team member put up pictures of a huge bunch of flowers and balloons from our work team....