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to expect my husband to acknowledge me and my best friend when he comes in the house?

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ilovecake · 24/10/2007 18:00

Not for the first time he has returned home (not from work but from a bike ride- his hobby of choice) walked into the room having picked up DS (16mths) plonked him on sofa and failed to make eye contact or say hello to either of us and turned to walk out again. I said aren't you going to say hello then - and then he obliges. This isn't a first offence which is why it winds me up. This is a really good friend who we see as a couple (with her hubby) and they have been there for us at so many important times but he is so often plain rude - yet we had had a lovely day together so far and I don't understand the change in attitude. He claims it's nothing to do with friend but that he didn't notice he hadn't said hello, or other times he said he is tired, shy ... blah, blah. I am a basically shy person but its just bloody good manners to speak to people and look at them when doing so, especially when its someone you know really well. Anyway you'll probably think i'm being silly but i'm really mad about it as it keeps happening.

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amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/10/2007 18:03

ynbu i would feel really uncomfortable if i was the friend and there is no excuse for no manners

hana · 24/10/2007 18:04

I can see you point
but I hate when dh or anyone says to me 'aren't you going to.....' it's like being told off. even worse in front of someone

you need to have a chat and tell him how this make your feel

deegward · 24/10/2007 18:07

my friend's h does this, and I find it vv rude, when I was at home with my mum and dad, we used to have to say where we were going if we left the room!! wtf do it to this day. My dad would have gone ballistic if you came back into the house and didn't put your head around the door and said hello to who was there. Just good manners, no not good manners just manners!

ilovecake · 24/10/2007 18:07

You're right i did feel silly telling him off in front of friend - shouldnt have done that - thats probably not helped. I dont want my friend to be made to feel uncomfortable. He doesnt seem to understand what the big deal is - its just it happens so often when we are with friends.

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stressteddy · 24/10/2007 18:08

In my experience many (and by no means all) cyclists are very "solo" kind of people. They are quite introverted and often find small talk etc quite difficult/tedious
Having said that, I don't think saying "hello" would be considered smalltalk even to a cyclist
I'm sure there are some cyclists who are going to slate me for this - ST girds her loins!!

ilovecake · 24/10/2007 18:08

I don't expect him to sit down and join in the conversation but just to stick your head round the door is enough.

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sparkybabe · 24/10/2007 18:09

maybe he thinks its his house so he doesn't need to say anything? Maybe he thinks it's the friends position to say hello? MAybe he just can't be bothered?

ilovecake · 24/10/2007 18:10

I love that comment stressteddy. One can be shy but not rude though eh?

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stressteddy · 24/10/2007 18:12

Indeed ilc - 2 very different things

swervingirvan · 24/10/2007 18:39

he probably just wasn't bothered. if he's comfortable in the other persons presence and you know he doesn't dislike her (u say you see each other socially as a couple) then he probably just got, was maybe a little tired or had something he wanted to do and didn't feel like saying hi. not a big deal imo

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