I have a couple of friends from a place we all worked a dozen years back. They are both interesting and fun to chat with - when we manage to get together. But neither will ever organise anything.
I was texting with one recently and she said we should get together (covid rules, outdoors for a coffee/chat) and I agreed that would be nice. She replied she's not back to work until the 4th and I reply I'm back to work on 29th. She replies maybe we could do a weekend.
And this is where things (as always) fall apart. She is incapable of saying "ok, Saturday at 2 pm by the Costa near you" or anything similar. If I don't make the arrangements it doesn't happen.
My life has become very hectic but if she arranged something and I agreed to it I would be there as I would organise my life around it. I have arranged things for the last 12 years, hosted dinners, parties, even arranged when she would host dinner (because she won't commit otherwise). I have told her I can't continue to do this but she won't arrange anything.
When we do get together we will end up chatting non stop for hours - she's an interesting individual and while we have very different lives we get along very well - except when it come to arranging things.
AIBU? Or can you suggest a way for her to pick things up?