Gift etiquette- lighthearted!

[Casiloco]

DIL's sister visiting from Mexico and has brought traditional Christmas pressies for us all including some v sweet cakes for DH and me. I'm being careful with my diet atm and DH is diabetic and wants to give the cakes back (with explanation and apologies, of course).

I still think this is completely unnecessary/inappropriate. After all, we can have just one each or gift them to others within the family. DH doesn't seem to understand how this could cause offence/hurt.

I sometimes wonder if his parents taught him anything 🤷‍♀️

AIBU - he is right and should be able to give th cakes back without upset.

AINBU - we should keep the gift with thanks and then find ways of passing on if necessary.

Of course you should say thank you and keep them. Giving them back would be super ungrateful

Giving them back is really, really rude!

You don't need to give it back. I agree it would be rude. Just accept them and can you give them away to someone who would appreciate them like friends or neighbours or a food bank?

Depends.

Does the sister know he’s diabetic and could cause him problems? Maybe he’s hurt she’s given no thought to his gift?

It’s the DIL’s sister so she probably had no idea and the gist was well-intentioned. I don’t I ow of my sister’s husband’s parents are diabetic or not. I barely know their names. Like the gift-giver in this thread, I also live in another country so it’s not like I see them regularly.

Accept the gifts with thanks and re-gift/donate/share with neighbors when she has gone home.

Why on earth would he give them back? Is he completely without empathy? When she goes, share the love!

Sister has no idea DH is diabetic so no lack of forethought!

I would take them and say thank you and then fling them in the bin.

That sounds awful but it's less awful than just saying ''no take these away from me!''. Better to let them think you ate them.