I've put a some threads on here about my DHs sister's family being grabby with presents this year (dictating expensive gifts, out of the blue large spending expectations with no prior discussion, lots of present messages, no 'please/hi/how are you', quite intense) it got uncomfortable so i stopped replying to the messages and left it to DH. He complied to keep the peace with the notion that next year we'll be clearer earlier that we preferred it when things were low key and want to go back to that (no judgement if you love going extra at xmas, each to their own).
Fast forward and today I sent SIL a message saying thank you for the gifts hope you had a nice Christmas etc etc. She saw the message hours ago and said nothing back and nothing to DH. I need to brush it off but after all the fuss they made about getting certain gifts I would have expected them to at least say thank you to DH. Also I'm a bit peeved at FIL, as he spent a lot of money on SIL and didn't get DH anything (not even a card!) and hasn't thanked DH for his gift from us either. IMO that's so harsh!
I don't want to dwell on this but feel so bad for DH. I'm really lucky in that my family are far from perfect but really caring and would never be like this so I'm finding it all a bit strange :/ how do you let stuff like this wash over you without it really lowering your opinions of people. They are my in laws so I'm kind of stuck with them.