2 lives?

[motherofnightmares]

I seem to have 2 lives. Hear me out.

Real life which is happily married (to a man) with 2 young kids

Fantasy life which is when I go to bed at night and I'm a lesbian and sometimes I'm with a wife and other times just dating. Don't have kids in this life. Sometimes/often I dream of this life.

But when I wake up I'm happy and content and get on with my real life no problems.

Does anyone else have a fantasy life like how I described?

Can't say I do although I do fantasize about living closer to a nice Chinese restaurant that delivers.

Oh, absolutely. I understand OP. I don't quite know what my sexuality is but I've worked out I prefer women to men in general, by quite a long way. Just last night I had a dream where I slept with a woman and it was amazing. But my (male) partner is absolutely my type, I've been with him for half a dozen years, I want to marry him and have kids with him and I love him to bits.

Sometimes I wish I'd have explored more before settling down (only ever kissed a girl, never slept with a girl, never dated a girl, in fact my family don't even know that I am anything other than hetero). I know if I ever split with my bf I'd date females, but I don't actually wish it would happen - if that makes sense.

I sometimes make up stories in my head to help me drift off to sleep, but they normally involve me being some sort of wizard

@htbzllhcR everything you wrote is EXACTLY how I would describe it for me also so he it makes sense

Yep! I have a dream life where I’m being swept off my feet by a wonderful lover, going to nice restaurants and generally loving it up a bit. I often have dreams about this other life and wake up feeling somehow refreshed and energised by the warmth and kindness and company.

I think it’s because my life is a bit dull sometimes- I’m a recently single mum with a small child; there’s a pandemic; despite the wonderful people in my life and a job I love, I am often lonely. So I think the dreams and fantasies are my brain giving me a break! And showing me how I’d like life to be, maybe, one day.

[quote motherofnightmares]@htbzllhcR everything you wrote is EXACTLY how I would describe it for me also so he it makes sense [/quote]
Glad to read this tbh, it's nice to know that someone feels the same way as me! I always thought I was odd.

@MariaK91

I sometimes make up stories in my head to help me drift off to sleep, but they normally involve me being some sort of wizard

😂😂

I make up stories in my head to help me drift off to sleep too. Last night it was that I was kidnapped and held hostage by Charles Bronson ... ok, it “might” have been Tom Hardy but he was pretending to be Charles Bronson

I’m married to an amazing man and we have two wonderful children - I’m very happy with my life. I class myself as heterosexual.

When I was 24 years old I did have a 5 month fling with another woman (who was about the same age as me) and it was amazing!

I still think of her now, especially if I’m having a fantasy of sorts.

I don’t think of women sexually and when I was younger I was never sexually attracted to any other woman - it was just her.

If I split up with my husband I could not imagine wanting to be sexually involved with a woman. I feel like that phase of my life is all in my past.....but I’m very glad I got to experience it.

Its called maladaptive daydreaming. It can be unhealthy if it starts to take over your day to day life but it doesn't sound like it does so crack on.

I'm a maladaptive daydream, it started as a coping mechanism in childhood and stayed with me. I have a very complex fantasy world that lives in my head and its where I go to when I need some time out. If I get half an hour in the day to go have a lie down then I go lie on the bed and have a daydream, its my equivalent of taking a relaxing nap.

My fantasy is that ’m a size 8 and I can fly.

In reality I’m too fat to fly.

@FoxyTheFox

Its called maladaptive daydreaming. It can be unhealthy if it starts to take over your day to day life but it doesn't sound like it does so crack on.

I'm a maladaptive daydream, it started as a coping mechanism in childhood and stayed with me. I have a very complex fantasy world that lives in my head and its where I go to when I need some time out. If I get half an hour in the day to go have a lie down then I go lie on the bed and have a daydream, its my equivalent of taking a relaxing nap.

Ever thought about writing a book on it?

Ha! I don't think my head life would be exciting to anyone except me.