Where to live after divorce

[PishFood]

Am finally getting divorced soon after years of a shit marriage. We live in a really shit town, my teenager is in a special measures school but he has a lot of friends. If i didn’t have children I would leave like a shot, only moved here because this is where ex wanted to live. My AIBU is, I want to move about an hour away to a relatively decent city (Norwich), away from the arsehole of nowhere (the fens) but this would mean that my son only sees his dad once a week instead of everyday. What is more important, staying close to dad (who is an adulterous dick head but has been a good dad) or living somewhere with a bit of personality?

I would move to get D's into a good school. He will only have one chance at this. He can see his df at weekends and if he has lots of friends he will soon make more friends. It will also give you a fresh start.

I think it depends on where in the Fens i mean I thuik I rather live in March or Ely to Norwich. Not saying Norwich is bad but again it depends where yourliving there and what sschol you attend in norwich. I think it,s alot for a 13 year old though to move schols, towns and cope with a parental divorce. Can you move and he sstay with Dad if your that unhappy?

I do wonder how many of these people see there school friends.

I don't know Norwich or if there is a different closer option. ..

This imo is the last chance to move without really disrupting hud education but do it asap if it's going to happen.

@Lemmeout

Move. He’ll be so isolated due to lack of transport links in the Fens. Norwich has so more to offer you both for the future.

Absolutely. So many more opportunities there and it is a lovely & very friendly city.

Your child’s relationship with his father should be your priority. Moving is an absolute last resort. If you can’t find employment or housing you might be forced to move, but even then, I would try to ask the ex to move too.

I'd move. A teenager is going to be bored stupid in the fens unless you drive him everywhere. And a better school would be very important to me.

Have you asked your ds what he would prefer? He's old enough to give his view.

Fens vs. Norwich... I can see why that's tough. Which crap town?

my gut feeling is to prioritise your son & let him keep stability of seeing his (good) dad often. How old is your son? You can move when he's old enough to travel alone.

Unless it's Wisbech. You're allowed to get the hell out of Wisbech ASAP.

sorry, xpost... he could travel now... but teens need their parents more than ever You can move in 3 or 5 years. You put up with shite marriage for much longer, this wait should be easier.

And definitely involve your son in the decision before you decide to move.