New account created, you know how it is! The below is pretty long, so bare with me.
This Christmas I have spent alone, this was entirely my own choice. Myself and my partner of 10 years were supposed to be flying over to spend Christmas with DP family until NYD. Partner hasn't been home for Christmas in 7 years, as it is extremely expensive to fly then. So we tend to go for a long weekend start of December and then they'll go for a week or so in Jan without me. Both when the flight prices are much lower. So although they get to see parents it's not quite the same.
With every thing happening at the moment I said around November that it is very unlikely I will be going. Spoke to my parents and said potentially I will come down, nothing concrete - which my mother was fine with and completely understood. Mother is in Portsmouth so has now gone to Tier 4, so actually could not go.
Me, DP and some friends weekend of the 12th decided to have a mini early Christmas, we had spent the last couple of Christmas' with this couple. So I kind of had a Christmas day, just much smaller. Last weekend the Saturday/Sunday news was creeping out that countries were likely to ban flights from the UK, (I was actually pretty happy as i didn't really want to go by this point for loads of reasons) so it made my mind up, DP completely understood why I wasn't coming, naturally was a little upset we wouldn't be together at Christmas. But like I said i'm planning on being alive for a good while yet and it's just one year. I was also feeling pretty rough last weekend and still don't feel great now. I did have a PCR Test because I wouldn't have been able to fly with out a negative test result and it said I don't have Corona, so this is something else. Literally went straight home from test centre and didn't leave the house before coming down with what it is I have.
Yesterday had Christmas by myself, wasn't that bad had a lot of Zooms with friends and family, it really didn't feel like I was missing out on anything.
This morning around 10am my mother rang, the call actually woke me up. This is not like me at all as I'm an early riser. Was talking and she ended up asking how my waygu steak was yesterday, I explained I wasn't feeling great and didn't eat. This news seemed to tip her over the edge and is putting the blame solely at DPs feet and how incredibly selfish they are to leave me here alone. DP definitely wouldn't have cooked Christmas Dinner yesterday, like a lot of other European countries they have the big meal on the 24th, so they cook 24th and I cook 25th. This is an arrangement that we've had the last 7 years and it's really nice merging our two Christmas traditions together.
Anyway about an hour or so later I get some messages from DP telling me that my Mother has been messaging them about how selfish they are to leave me at home, even going as far to say that they purposely took the car so I was unable to travel down from Manchester to Portsmouth for the Christmas. We are a one car household and it's at the airport. I've been working from home since March and it is incredibly unlikely I will need a car between now and DPs return, it was also me making a 3hr round trip to drop off and collect from the airport which I wouldn't particularly want to do.
Am I within my rights to be absolutely furious with my mother for this, I haven't spoken to them yet as I'm still mad. Do you think my mother my be right and DP is selfish?
Answers on a postcard.