In laws

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Bach story -DH’s family are toxic and difficult (think alcoholism, DV lots of swearing and arguing, always a drama. They’re all mental apart from DH, MIL and one sister. The rest of them are insane.)
Us... 3 kids under 3. Christmas Day we had to drag them to MILs for Christmas dinner with loud and obnoxious in sis in laws and their families. Baby couldn’t nap because of the noise and other two littles were totally overwhelmed with masses of presents, chaos and noise. SIL was pissed and annoying, scaring littles with her pissed behaviour. I really didn’t enjoy Christmas Day at all but we feel obliged as FIL recently passed and MIL ‘doesn’t want to be on her own at Christmas’. I’ve just told OH that next year we’re staying home. He didn’t respond but I know this will be an issue. We have totally different outlooks on life (to his family) and really want to distance from them next year. They’re chavvy as hell (lip fillers, Botox, loud, shouty, kids glued to screens 24/7, nephew on COD at 9 years old). I Don’t want my children growing up round such toxic people. On the other hand am I being an unreasonable snob?

Wow what a mixed bag of responses! One actually took my breath away @billy1996 Maybe I am being overly judgemental. I certainly don’t think I’m perfect but I want to shelter my children from what I see as harmful role models. I think I next year we’ll stay at home and invite MIL as suggested, or as others have suggested go to my family.
DH abs I married young and the crazy behaviour didn’t really bother me until we had children.

My first thought was, 3 kids under 3, good luck whatever your circumstances!

Yes you're being very snobby. A short contact at christmas is not going to send your beloved loinsprings chavvy, but it might possibly give them a more rounded view of life.

Totally on your side OP. That sounds like a very difficult Christmas with three little ones. And I'm slightly staggered by the people who said everyone drinks at Christmas, and implied you couldn't therefore object to someone being that pissed. It is really problematic how much we normalise excessive alcohol consumption. I've not drunk anything this Christmas and I've still had a lovely time.