Ex husband and I divorced earlier this year he is a complete narc.
He met someone in October moved in the same week and got engaged to her after 7 weeks and is love bombing her at the moment. She is older and has adult children and she is not a bad person, but has no idea that she gets in bed with the devil himself!
Anyway he dropped presents off for our 2 sons (16 and 11) day before Christmas Eve cause that’s what they wanted to do. No arrangement just phoned and said to son he was on his way.
Plan was for 11 year old to stay at theirs 27/28th
Then he says he has to work - so can’t have him, he literally takes days off when he can’t be arsed and only sees his 11 year old once a fortnight for the night. He knew the plan but again he won’t take time off to be with his son if it doesn’t suit him.
So then he wanted him today, Boxing Day, but only from 5/6pm because they are going to his mams (not her bubble) and for dinner somewhere (in a tier 3!)
He then said on video call to son he was too busy to come and pick him up and I had to drive the 10 miles or so to drop him. I very calmly piped up and said that if it’s his time with him he could at least dedicate it to him and not make him work around his own plans, and pick him up himself. He muttered something and put the call down on us. Son was fuming because he could see I was calm and he was being unreasonable about it and yet again putting everyone else in front of him.
Aibu? I just think it’s not for me to do the running?
I have him blocked on my phone all the time now because I just can’t converse with him as he triggers my ptsd, he caused and I am having to have therapy again!