To be pissed off

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Cooked a full lunch, including delivering a plated on for D IL’s, who are lovely. They are elderly so we decided to not eat together this year. DH and DS were aware it would be ready for 3. We all went to have a drink around the fire pit with IL’s at lunch time. I left at 1, just down the road to cook lunch. Gone 3, nobody returned, so I plated IL’s then ours. DH and son back as I dished up. AIBU for being pissed off about over 2 hours cooking alone and DH being late back. Relatives were on face time to IL’s on DH’s phone, which is the reason for him being late.

YABU I think

So they got back at what, 3:10?

So if they got back just as you were dishing up... what’s the problem?

They were 10 minutes late but understandable if your elderly inlaws were using his phone.

How late are we taking as it’s not clear from your OP? As you say you were just dishing up it sounds like it was probably less than 20 minutes? In that case it seems like it’s not worth getting annoyed about, you knew they were in a big group where it’s easy to lose track of time and it sounds like they had good reason if ILs were using your DH’s phone.

YABU to be pisser off at 2 hours cooking alone as it sounds like that was your choice? You told DP & DS dinner would be at 3 so it’s not like you put any request or expectation on them to join you so a bit unfair to them be upset about being alone. If you wanted help cooking the meal why didn’t you ask for it rather than get annoyed about the fact you had no help afterwards?

I’m a little unclear on what the issue was, you were dishing up as they arrived home, so either they were ten minutes late or your timing was wrong, either way the food wasn’t spoilt so no problem. You infer you went home to do said cooking alone, again no problem. Put on a smile and tell them it’s their turn do the washing up.