To think that it doesn't take much to text 'thank you'.

[DorisDaisyMay]

Do you think its odd when you get presents for people and they don't contact you to say thank you?

Especially, if they have had time to text Happy Christmas today.

I don’t get those kind of people that don’t thank you. Ungrateful takers. I just think they are rude and I would not bother giving to them again. I assume you did not receive anything from them either, no gift back for you. They obviously don’t respect you enough to say thank you.

We only open our presents in the late afternoon / evening. We've messaged Happy Christmas to everyone this morning. I would be sitting down to do phone calls and messages tomorrow to say thank you...

If you delivered them in person, presumably you handed them over and they said ‘thanks’ no?

I cannot bear all of this endless thanks nonsense and don’t get me started on thank you cards.

Did they not say thank you when you gave the gift?

I wouldn’t expect a second thank you.

Our dc have literally just finished opening their presents as the day is just too full on for them to do it all at once.

Thank yous will go out tomorrow as it's a bit late to do them now.

I genuinely don't understand why grown adults get so childishly obsessed with the desperate instant gratification of knowing their present was the most greatest life-changing event in someone's entire life.
If the gift is in the giving, why are so many people obsessed with this and read so much into it? No one says thank you for anything in my extended family and no one gets hysterical about it or throwing around accusations of ingratitude when the day isn't even done! I find it bizarre given how busy everyone is at Christmastime. It's unkind to be so needy and grabby for affection.

It is still only Christmas Day. People who texted to wish you a happy Christmas may not have opened their presents yet and some are saved until Boxing Day.

I always thought 'thank yous' were sent after new year, that is the posted ones.

You are fretting a bit too soon. Let people enjoy their festivities without worrying about 'thank yous' until it's all over.

I genuinely don't understand why grown adults get so childishly obsessed with the desperate instant gratification of knowing their present was the most greatest life-changing event in someone's entire life

Wtf! Nobody is saying this in the slightest

It’s just basic manners, that unfortunately some people lack. A quick text saying ‘thank you’ is the least someone should do when someone has gone to the thought, time & expense of giving a gift. And kids need to be taught to thank people so they learn a bit of gratitude.

I agree that it doesn’t need to be on the day of receipt though!

I'm losing track of who's sent me presents and completely lose track of texts and calls at the best of times. If it's me then totally apologise, could your friend be similar? Ive got ME and a young child and can barely remember what I need to do at home

I buy for dc under 10yo regardless and if I don't get a thank you in those 10 years (or even confirmation it arrived) I stop buying. However if you delivered them personally and the person said thank you at the time, that would be okay for me. It's when you post presents into the abyss and never hear anything I get worked up about manners

Maybe they'll send a thank you card. Stop being so impatient!

We have opened barely 1/4 of presents today as little DS gets very into everyone's presents and wants to spend a long time looking at each one, so I don't want to rush him. It'll probably take us several days to open everything. We also send handwritten thank you notes so save our thanks for those, which we think are more thoughtful, rather than a text message.

Maybe they are old fashioned and will send a thank you card or letter. Hope so.

I get it. I really do. I buy for all my nieces and my nephew every year, I don't spend a fortune, about £20 - £30 each for Christmas (same for birthday). I get all my family cards for Christmas and birthday and always ask what the kids want and get them something appropriate that they request and like. I travel a distance to deliver it all and I get fuck all in return. I know it isn't about giving to receive, I'd never stop giving them just because I don't get but sometimes it's good to vent.

I never get a thank you, I never even get a cheap Christmas card or a birthday card off them. I know money can sometimes be tight for my siblings but they still manage to buy fags, booze, pricey phones and the latest PS4 games. A Christmas card from a cheap multi pack for my DD would at least acknowledge that they think of her. Even a home made scribbled card from one of the kids would be lovelier still. A 79p selection box from Home Bargains would be so appreciated by my little girl who's luckily too young to question it. But instead each year I get told "if we've got her this, she's gonna love it" and nothing ever materialises.

Next year I'm getting them all playdoh, slime ingredients and glitter. Fuck the parents

I haven't thanked anyone for any presents because we haven't opened any yet.

Two kids with stockings and presents to open, two socially-distanced visits with DC opening-presents-in-garden, full on Christmas lunch to cook, dog to walk, chickens to sort, etc. There just hasn't been time to open any more, and as a PP pointed out, I'd like to appreciate the gifts rather than open them in a rush when we're all tired and stressy. Looking forward to a relaxed Boxing Day opening session

I always feel quite stressed when I get thank you texts at 9am and have to say 'mmm, sorry we haven't got round to yours yet'. It makes me feel ungrateful but I'm really not - I just don't want to rush it (and we are extremely lucky to have lots to open).

I haven’t stopped cooking and cleaning and organising all day. People will get their thanks either tomorrow or the next day

I've not texted anyone. I'll be sending cards in a couple of days.

@Mammy20

I don’t get those kind of people that don’t thank you. Ungrateful takers. I just think they are rude and I would not bother giving to them again. I assume you did not receive anything from them either, no gift back for you. They obviously don’t respect you enough to say thank you.

These are Christmas presents that the op is talking about and it is still only Christmas day!

@Sammysquiz

I genuinely don't understand why grown adults get so childishly obsessed with the desperate instant gratification of knowing their present was the most greatest life-changing event in someone's entire life

Wtf! Nobody is saying this in the slightest

It’s just basic manners, that unfortunately some people lack. A quick text saying ‘thank you’ is the least someone should do when someone has gone to the thought, time & expense of giving a gift. And kids need to be taught to thank people so they learn a bit of gratitude.

I agree that it doesn’t need to be on the day of receipt though!

Exactly, and it is the day they will be opened, or else tomorrow.

I've always been good at sending out 'thank yous' but a few days or a week later is the norm.

I found this with my friends daughter. I was sending a gift and it never got acknowledged. So I just stopped doing it.
Some people can be very rude.

We try to keep phones and tech to a minimum during family time. It’s getting harder as there’s a balance to be struck. But for us, sending happy Christmas to family is fine, but thank yous would wait until tomorrow. Grandparents get Skyped and photos get taken but that’s about it.
It’s not ingratitude. Tomorrow I’ll text proper thank yous and get in touch to see how things went with friends and family. But today’s priority was family time.

This pisses me off too OP. I get that people are busy- but these same people who are "busy" are also the ones posting regularly to Facebook/Instagram etc.

Annoys me that you go out of your way to put a smile on someone's face and they can't be arsed to tap out a quick "thank you" text. My SIL is a bugger for this - makes you feel like you shouldn't put in the effort anymore.

Even my friend who's a real stickler for manners doesn't get the thank you cards out until a week or so after Christmas.
After the year we've had, would you not cut the recipient some slack ? This Christmas will be different from normal for most and emotionally harder. If it bothers you that much then stop gift giving.

I could have written exactly the same message today, close friends that I put a lot of thought and money into their presents, they messaged me this morning to light heartedly complain there was glitter everywhere from the paper, no thank you, I messaged later to thank them for their presents to me, got a reply saying you’re welcome, still not a single thank you for any of theirs!

Yanbu. Stop buying for them. I’m going to follow my own advice after this year. Not only are gifts not reciprocated (between child nieces and nephews) for birthday or Christmas. I am daft enough to keep giving, and still get no thank you.!!!
All these dc have phones and fb, parents can’t be blamed really. It’s rude. But on the other hand, maybe, just perhaps the receiver sighs and wishes people would stop giving gifts. Just a thought.