To be worried about nephew going into university accommodation

[Tellmelies65]

He will be 25 in august and I just about to start his undergraduate degree in September.
My two went when younger and struggled with the noise etc. Should I advise him against it as I would imagine it will be even harder when older.

He's 25! And its September?

I think universities are used to having a range of ages these days, and they tend to group postgrads and more mature students together. Plus being in ‘flats’ as opposed to the old ‘cells’ that we lived in in the dark ages when I was at university (no en suite! Imagine!) will probably be better than on a whole floor of single study-bedrooms.

He’s very sensitive so I worry for him.

It's nice of you to worry. I'd chat to him about the range of accommodation available. If all else,fails...a pair of good earplugs as a parting gift

You can request quiet accommodation. Just be prepared for it to be very quiet accommodatio. Surely at 25 he realises that young people tend not to live like monks in communal accommodation.

Has he been diagnosed with a particular condition? Otherwise I cannot see a great issue.

He must be VERY sensitive for you to be worrying about it on, er, Christmas Day, nine months ahead of the fact.

Is he worried?

Have you posted about this before?

I don’t think 25 is too old for accommodation. It’s his choice surely? He probably knows his own mind.

Is there any reason you need to worry about your 25 year old nephew on Christmas Day nine months before he is going. Unless there's a huge backstory.

How has his life been in 7 years since school. Maybe he actually wants a big change. It is exciting and also brave to do this rather than just plodding on.

Where are his DPs in all this?

He’s just told me when I’ve messaged him to wish him a merry Christmas. I didn’t know anything of his plans before today. He’s been quite isolated as he’s been looking after my sister who has mental health problems.

If he’s been a young carer with lots of responsibilities, and is a bit sensitive, then a few terms living with young people in shared accommodation might be just the sort of fun, new adventure he needs.

He might feel more confident being in halls than living out. Also at my DD's uni they tend to put the mature students together, so it might be the same at his.

There are many older students these days and universities have accommodation for mature students set aside as well as quiet blocks

His own time and space, free from his current caring responsibilities, may be exactly what he wants. He'll be fine.

He will be fine, the university will try to pair him with other mature students or even give him the option to live with postgraduate student to bridge the age gap.

Being a mature student living off university will isolate him and feel more out of the circle. His best option is to go to student residences to find a group of friend to do this journey with.

Yup. A bit of light relief and the worst thing being noisy flatmates is just what he needs.

Might be fun, might not even be that noisy. Our halls were all art or music students and the worst was being woken up by someone practicing a cello (they were all very good so at least the playing was half decent!) He sounds excited, I'd be happy for him.

Are you sensitive yourself?

There is no reason why going to university will not be the making of him.

Not really sensitive but I do worry about people.

He's 25, not 55. Unless there is some drip-feed coming about hyperacusis or ASD, I can't see the issue.

Where do you think he should live then?

Can your two talk to him about life in uni accommodation to help him make his own decision?

@PicaK

Yup. A bit of light relief and the worst thing being noisy flatmates is just what he needs.

I agree with this. It sounds like he's a very responsible young man looking after your sister. A chance to spread his wings sounds just what he needs.