To think you don’t buy clothes for the person who has just given birth in their pre pregnancy size?

[coralpig]

Thats it in a nutshell really. I used to be small- size 8-10 and gave birth to twins 5.5 weeks ago and I’m probably a 12-14ish/ medium...it’s hard to tell- I haven’t bought myself new clothes and have been squeezing into my old ones as nowhere to go. I have a tummy now that I didn’t and have been wearing a lot of leggings and smock tops. Sister in law bought me two beautiful jumpers for Christmas and of course they don’t fit. Husband bought me a beautiful coat and some lingerie this morning- it doesn’t fit either. In my sleep deprived state this morning, I cried. I’m super grateful and thanked them all but I also feel like crap about my body (I was already very self conscious about) and this has made me feel even more rubbish.

Yanbu op.

Buying clothes for someone who has just given birth is strange and thoughtless. And would have been strange and thoughtless regardless of the size purchased.

Your DH buying lingerie on the other hand actually freaks me out. You have 5.5 week old twins? So you are presumably still bleeding? (sorry if that’s tmi). To me, that’s like he’s trying to stake a claim on your body, reminding you that it’s high time you started being sexy again and putting him first, twins or no twins...yuck.

Either way, I totally understand how you’d feel and hope you also got some other nice gifts that you can actually enjoy properly.

Oh god, clothes were a terrible choice this soon after the babies were born (and lingerie?!?!), it’s too personal to the individual to know whether they would want them to fit now, to slim in to, etc. I imagine they wanted you to feel lovely and glam, but went about it the wrong way!

Hope you’re feeling ok OP, at 5.5 weeks postpartum I was in floods of tears if DH sneezed wrongly, so don’t worry if you feel rubbish. Post-pregnancy bodies are very difficult and emotional things, no one comes out of pregnancy with the body they went in to it with, and we all have to come to terms with that in our own way.

If you have been wearing original clothes perhaps they didn't realise 🤷‍♀️. Bit shocked at underwear for post 6 week birth. Just remember you can exchange coat and jumpers for bigger sizes

The lingerie though, surely sex is the last thing on your mind 🙄

I am sure they are lovely items. Put them away and forget about them for now, concentrate on spending time with your new additions.

I don't think people should buy other people clothes, it's such a personal thing about what's comfortable and what you like to wear.

Not even your spouse?

I don’t think clothes are a bad shout, as even if you’re a bigger size due to pregnancy you can still appreciate a nice jumper as opposed to wearing secondhand stuff or maternity clothes everywhere. I’m 20wks pregnant now with my second (& huge already) & my mum bought me a couple of tops that are not maternity but will fit now & still look nice when a bit more roomy (if I lose the weight quickly). I would put them away & try not to be offended, postpartum hormones are brutal & you deserve to be kind to yourself. Your husband probably just misses you & wasn’t thinking straight! It was 12wks after my first traumatic birth before I would let my husband touch me, so yours is optimistic!

I'd never buy a woman 6 weeks pp clothes - unless it was a scarf or gloves! Your DH and SIL sound lacking in common sense. Sympathies - of course they don't fit, even those of us that didn't have twins or c sections and sepsis didn't snap back, took me 5-6 months both times.

Sounds like you've had a rough time and some extra sleep was what they both should've given you for Christmas. Hope tomorrow is better - take it all back and get something you want that fits and makes you feel good, or just get vouchers for when you feel more like it.

Lingerie is literally insane

I wouldn,t buy a women lingerie. But yes i was active not long after birth. (def less then 4wks.) Also perhaps she thought it would make her feal sexy rather then frumpy? (I wouldn,t do it but I wouldn,t be offened.)

@june2007

I wouldn,t buy a women lingerie. But yes i was active not long after birth. (def less then 4wks.) Also perhaps she thought it would make her feal sexy rather then frumpy? (I wouldn,t do it but I wouldn,t be offened.)

Did you have twins? By a c section? with sepsis?